To think the modern obsession with “boundaries” is just emotional ghosting with better PR?

[TherapyFatigueHeron]

You hurt someone, call it a boundary and log off. AIBU to think emotional intelligence has turned into moral cowardice?

It’s an interesting point. There is rather an element of using therapy-speak as a weapon (like ten year old girls calling each other toxic).

I remember someone telling someone who disagreed with her that she was disregarding her “lived experience”.

I suspect that this sort of thing is rather a guide to how someone is likely to treat you. Are they going to be rather unkind then behave as though they are somehow virtuous? If so then it’s worth avoiding them.

Honestly OP, YABU. Boundaries aren’t emotional ghosting with better PR — they’re self-care with a side of administrative efficiency. If I can simply declare “energetic misalignment” and log off before anyone asks me to be accountable, why WOULDN’T I?

People used to say “sorry,” now they say “this is me protecting my peace,” which is the same thing but with a soft-focus Instagram filter and a side hustle attached.

It’s not moral cowardice, it’s spiritual outsourcing. It’s wellness-adjacent abdication. It’s ethically-neutral vanishing.

I suppose which is the more unkind?
(1) “She’s doing my head in - we always have to talk about her problems no matter what is going on in my life. I think I’m going to avoid her for a bit” or
(2) “She has serious main character energy. I need to take some space to set up boundaries for my own wellbeing”.

I would say that (2) is more unkind - partly because it makes it sound as though the person being avoided has a serious personality defect and it leaves no room for anyone thinking badly of the avoider.