To tell her it’s boring

[AntoinetteNoCake]

(Light hearted) So my friend is such a lovely person, we’ve been friends for about 15 years now and seen each other through lots of trials and tribulations (although probably I’ve always been the more supportive one). She started a job working in an accounts type role about 5 years ago and has done brilliantly well, she started on reception and worked her way up, I’m really proud of her. The problem is, it’s all she talks about. Every conversation 5 minutes in turns to talking about work. The people, the job, her deadlines, the intricacies of various parts of the job, what people have said to her, things she’s completed etc. it’s as if I’ve said ‘so how’s work? Tell me all about it!’ As lovely as she is, it’s making me want to avoid her. I’ve tried steering the conversation away, I’ve tried saying ‘wow your job sounds pretty boring’ (which is actually quite rude😂) But she just keeps doing it. If I were to tell her outright to stop talking about it I feel like she’d be quite hurt. So what do I do? Be blunt or put up with it to my own detriment as it’s really annoying me (for context, I work in a listening type MH role so am probably a bit fed up of listening to things that I don’t always want to) WWYD?

Some great suggestions here - thanks!

And I suppose it depends on the job really doesn’t it - some things I wouldn’t mind hearing about but invoices and payroll is just not really very interesting if you don’t work there!

I do think it’s pretty common though, thinking about it my Mum used to talk incessantly about her job back when she had one, before the dementia took hold. I wish she would again.

Maybe I’ll just give her a very engaged and interested 10 minutes to talk about work and then say that’s enough work chat and firmly move her on! (And hope she doesn’t circle back, like every time I’ve tried to do it in the last 5 years!)

I'm another who couldn't put up with this. I would stop seeing her so regularly. I don't think there's a way you're going to be able to say something without offending her, and even if you did say something, do you think it would make much difference? It's rude and boorish of her and ultimately isn't your problem.

I have a friend like this, on and on about her grandchildren and how clever and witty they are (they sound really cheeky actually) and if I don't react enough, she repeats it. It's made me avoid her.

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She'll probably respond with: "psyching myself up for another thrilling week at the office." 🤣😂 And so it continues........

YANBU- my friend does the same - she is a middle manager in Civil Service but she seems to think it is the most fascinating job ever! I have had to tell her to scale it back as only interesting to her