I’ve fucked up with my sister

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I told our other sisters something she’d told me in confidence. One sister accidentally mentioned it to my auntie who went and told my sister that I’d said something. Does that make sense?
Anyway, sister is rightly livid with me for betraying her trust. I’ve called and texted my apologies, she’s not getting back to me.
Shall I call again, or leave her alone?

Leave it to settle down.

Hard to say as you’ve included no detail about what you said.

depends I think - is it a huge secret?
anyway I do think betraying a confidence is a bit shit
do you have form / why did you tell the others?

Maybe write her a letter that she can read at her own pace and not bombard her phone with calls or texts. Apologise and perhaps explain your reasoning for telling your other sister, hopefully there is a good one….like you were concerned about her and not just gossiping. If she doesn’t respond, give her some space and then try again a bit later down the line. That way you are respecting her space but also showing her you still care and are not giving up.

It’s not really relevant I suppose. I opened my mouth and told a secret when I shouldn’t have. Then it went along a chain of people opening their mouths when they shouldn’t have.

i think secret may not be the right word. It’s very shit that I told someone something she’d told me in confidence.

It was out of concern and was mentioned in part of a wider conversation about family stuff with my other siblings. It wasn’t just malicious gossipp

Don't think there's much more you can do now, but hope that she comes round. Leave it alone for a couple of days then try again.

Yep, fingers crossed

I think a genuine apology should help when she is ready to hear it.
Until then you'll just have to wait.

I shall leave her alone

Leave her alone, and keep your trap closed in future would be my advice Op. good luck

You can only wait and hope age comes round. Hopefully you'll learn to keep your mouth shut.

Give it time it will blow over.
She will talk again but i dont think she will trust you like she did.
I told my middle sister something years ago and she done what you did told one and it went from there.
I never did tell her anything again that was 20 year ago, mind you over the years ive learned she dose it to a lot of people.

However i always tell people if you want to keep a secret keep it to yourself.

When you do get to speak to her OP, don’t try to justify it like you have on here. Don’t say you did it out of concern. Don’t say that others shouldn’t have passed it on either. This is on you. Own it.

My sister did this to me. Under the guise of "concern". Our relationship has never recovered. It's not an ok thing to do. I don't care whether someone else feels the information is insignificant etc.

I'd leave her alone.

Need more context but why did you break the trust?

I hope things sort themselves out but she won't trust you again - not sure your other sister blurted it out accidentally either.

I don't have a sister. A brother but he's a very private person and I would never ever betray him

When you say "I’ve called and texted my apologies," you haven't actually spoken, right?

How about writing her a groveling letter of apology? A real letter.