To just stop going to my nail salon without telling them?

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I have been going to the same nail salon for about four months now. Before this, I had been with my previous lady for 5 years.

I really don’t like this new salon, but it’s the only one in my area. The builder gel is never even and the colour selection is crap. AIBU to just cancel my appointment that I have standing, and just stop going? I’m going to do them myself now because it’s going to work out being cheaper

You definitely don't need to worry about telling them. i moved a year ago and since have been to a number of different nail salons, hair dressers and changed several times before settling on ones I like.

Never explained, just either didn't rebook, or cancelled appointments and tried somewhere else. Never been asked for an explanation. It's like anything, sometimes it's the right fit and sometimes it's not :)

Edited to add - when cancelling i've obviously always made sure to give plenty of notice and adhere to cancellation policies!

I’ve obviously never said it’s because of that, but with my old hair salon (which I had been going to for 15 years), when I wasn’t going I just said I wouldn’t be coming back due to life circumstances

😬😬😬😬They'll have definitely heard "because of life circumstances" as "because I think you're doing a shit job"

... unless you were specific about the "life circumstances" like moving house or losing your job.

Personally I would go to get them professionally taken off if you have biab so your nails are wrecked. Then just not book in again. I’ve been to various places and unless you had been going for years I don’t think they would care

What, your parents taught you it was polite to go and offer an apologetic personal explanation to anyone whose workplace you are no longer going to use after a few months because they’re substandard?

I think they’ll think you pretty odd if you announce your departure 😂

Many girls are raised to be apologetic, put their needs lasts, and take up the least space possible. It's something to work on rather than something to be proud of.

It's a business transaction and not a friendship. You owe them nothing.

Sorry OP but the fact this is even a consideration is bonkers.

It’s a business. You have no obligation to go to any place and pay for a service if you don’t want to. No one will bat an eyelid if you just stop going.

This really, you've been less than half a dozen times, why do you think they'd notice/care?

Just cancel the appointment and don’t reschedule and don’t go back. Simple.

Of course you don’t have to tell them! And it’s hardly a long-standing relationship. You have only been going there four months. And it’s not a relationship at all - they will have no idea who you are and don’t care.

I’ve been brought up to believe it’s good manners. Especially in a small town.

I’ve been taught it would be polite to just send a message saying “I won’t be coming back, because of life circumstances”, but obviously that was wrong

It's not good manners but, it's weird. It will either make the workers feel bad or very awkward

Who taught you that?

You had a strong inkling it was wrong anyway, hence the thread 🤷‍♂️

I doubt they'll remember you, let alone care. I was in Lidl this week and when asked if I had a loyalty card, I reminded the cashier of a conversation we'd had about this a couple of days ago. He looked at me as though I was mad and calmly reminded me he'd had hundreds of customers since then and couldn't possibly remember every conversation he'd had 🤣

He was quite right. We remember them, but they don't always remember us 😉

Why are you overthinking this?

My parents. We live in a very small town.

Well if you've been brought up that it's good manners to tell them
you won't be making any further appointments why are you asking us??

it goes without saying (I would have thought) if you have an appointment BOOKED then yes, you tell them you won't be coming AND pay any cancelling fee that's applicable.

It's polite to let them know you won't attend an appointment. They won't even notice if you don't make further appointments and stop going after that

I do believe you should speak to businesses before leaving any negative feeback/reviews so they have an opportunity to address the problem. But other than that you don't need to announce your departure

I wpuld cancel the appointment and stop going, I wouldn't say why.

Did your parents teach you to use the bizarre phrase "life circumstances"? It sounds like you are about to join a cult!

This post says everything. I've been taught, how I'm raised, polite, good manners, none of this applies to a casual business arrangement. It's not a point of pride, you can have better boundaries. Not everyone should get your emotional labour.

I certainly wouldn’t after four months. I might if I’d been going longer. I don’t usually bother saying anything when I’ve stopped going to various places in the past. The only time I did was when it was someone who did a great job and I really liked her as a person, but I stopped going because she was clearly very popular so it was hard to get an appointment when I wanted one, so I felt like I wanted to give her some feedback.