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Husband alarms

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Megank1989 · 02/12/2025 11:58

DH has form on setting multiple alarms hours before he actually needs to be up. I’ve called him out so many times for them just to creep earlier again. It’s usually me that kicks him out of bed in the end anyway. Drives me insane.

I have been seething all day about this morning though. For context, he’s just had shoulder surgery to stop it continually dislocating. Delighted it’s done as our 1 year old is only going to get bigger. When the date was booked, we can’t have know her sleep was going to get so bad. She’s not slept past 4am for 6 weeks, only going back down for 30min or so with us and after hours of thrashing about. This means I’ve not slept past 4am for those 6 weeks as she won’t resettle in her cot and once she’s in with us she just wants boob which he obviously can’t help with

ANYWAY. This morning he had to go into London on the 6:40 train, we live a 20min walk from the station. He sets a foghorn level loud alarm for 4:30am (!!!) So I wake up, realise she’s still down (miracle!) and he faffs trying to switch it off. 30seconds later, she’s crying.

Even if it didn’t wake her up (which it did) on the off chance she slept past her current usual time, would he not pause to consider that I might want to sleep longer? I’m almost broken from sleep debt, tearful all the time and doing everything for DD while he’s in a sling. I feel guilty for not being able to be more supportive in his recovery due to all this but I’m just so angry at him right now.

OP posts:
Couldyounot · 02/12/2025 11:59

Happy to provide an alibi, OP

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 02/12/2025 13:13

I've got a patio. And a shovel.

glassof · 02/12/2025 13:34

My dh is the same, no babies anymore but it wakes me 5 days a week at 4.30 the madness begins. It doesn't wake him, so I have to wake him, he snoozes and it happens again 10 mins later.
Most mornings I struggle to go back to sleep.

Save my dh a space under the patio please!

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