To think it's mad standing at the side of football training in the cold, wet and dark?

[RessicaJabbit]

Kids football group.

All the parents stand around outside for an hour.

Right outside a warm cafe...

AIBU to be the only one who sits inside, reads my book and enjoys a hot drink?

I have invited them to join me.

My kids are much older now but all of them have commented on how much they appreciated us being there for sports. One of us was always always there unless we were ill and even then we made sure a close friend they trusted were there. I saw some horrible scenes when helicopter parents weren't around and threw blame at everyone when their kids were injured or got ill and didn't answer their phones...

To say nothing of needing volunteers for the various jobs needed to keep a grassroots sports team going.

On the subject of 'you do you'

Why are you asking if you're being unreasonable?

Trying to make sure my daughter doesn't discover football for as long as possible, to try to avoid this fate worse than death...

I think you are projecting OP.

People said they stayed because they enjoyed it. If you don’t and prefer to go to the cafe that’s fine.

You started a thread saying “why doesnt everyone go to the cafe” and people answered you. What were you expecting them to say?

I think op was hoping everyone would jump on the bandwagon of mocking how ridiculous it is to stand in some weather and support your kids.

Yes, I can't imagine why no-one wants to join her in the cafe despite her invitations...

It can be quite social too. You don't have to stand there in miserable silence. Some of the parents I know quite well at this point. 3 of the boys from rugby all started nursery together years ago and they now go to the same school, so I have been seeing their mums/dads about 7 times a week since 2019. Last Sunday I stood in a little huddle with three of the dads and we talked football, kitchen/bathroom renovations and Christmas plans.

Nope: absolutely love watching my kids do what they love and they look over and smile and it makes them happy. For reference - between the two it’s four nights a week and then each has a game on the weekend.

I think it’s important to show interest.

Usually for my Ds it’s an hour long, I go for a little walk 30mins and then watch 30 mins. Or if indoors read 30mins where he can’t see me, and then 30mins watching.

I would rather go to the cafe with him afterwards

You aren't being unreasonable to think that, but you are being unreasonable to judge others' choices.
Some parents do this at DS' football. They like to catch up with other parents, or in some cases they work away or don't live with their child so are being 'present' for them
Some of the parents mumsdon't attend any matches through choice. They say it's not their thing, or it's for fathers and sons. I don't really understand that (and I do judge). Football was never my 'thing', but it is DS', so I make sure I'm there whenever I can be (work or illness prohibiting).

Luckily DS1 only started football club from year 4 so as he was over 8 we can drop off and pick up for training days. DH quite often stays and watches if the weather is OK though.

I rarely go to matches as they are on Sundays and I take DS2 to family mass instead, but if its a home match with a late kick off we walk up after church and watch. DS1 likes when his little brother watches him.