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“Just the tip”

44 replies

Cantbloodyrememberthenameonthread · 01/12/2025 18:05

Joe and the juice. I have 2 AIBUs 1. To think asking for a tip when they’re just making a juice, writing my name on it and handing it to me while I stand there is stupid and 2. To find the tip jar saying “just the tip 😉 🍆 “ is a bit crass? I’m actually not a prude and maybe it’s just because I got a really arsey response to me saying I don’t want to leave a tip but it annoyed me today 😅 to make it worse - they don’t accept cash which has had me caught before as I didn’t have my card - but best believe cash is welcome for the tip jar!

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Sillysoggyspaniel · 01/12/2025 18:07

Yuk. I wouldn't go back.

Well, actually I would if it was a decent drink because my actions aren't as strong as my morals. But I still wouldn't tip.

Notmyreality · 01/12/2025 18:07

What?

Cantbloodyrememberthenameonthread · 01/12/2025 18:11

Sillysoggyspaniel · 01/12/2025 18:07

Yuk. I wouldn't go back.

Well, actually I would if it was a decent drink because my actions aren't as strong as my morals. But I still wouldn't tip.

to be fair the juices are good but it’s the tuna avocado sandwiches that get me 😫 delicious!

OP posts:
Cantbloodyrememberthenameonthread · 01/12/2025 18:11

Notmyreality · 01/12/2025 18:07

What?

What’s not clear?

OP posts:
BauhausOfEliott · 01/12/2025 18:15

I’m actually not a prude

I mean, you do sound like one if you’re bothered by a ‘just the tip’ joke. It made me laugh.

Anyone who is too young or innocent for the joke isn’t going to understand it, so it’s harmless.

You don’t have to leave a tip if you don’t want to. Loads and loads of places like that have a tip jar and they don’t have any expectations that people should be obliged to put money into them. It’s just there on the off-chance.

You got an arsey response to saying you don’t want to leave a tip because there was no need for you to say that. If you don’t want to leave a tip, in any establishment, you simply don’t leave one and they won’t be offended. Making a big deal out of not leaving one, and making a point of telling them, was odd, rude behaviour on your part.

The not taking cash isn’t the staff’s decision.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 01/12/2025 18:17

Sillysoggyspaniel · 01/12/2025 18:07

Yuk. I wouldn't go back.

Well, actually I would if it was a decent drink because my actions aren't as strong as my morals. But I still wouldn't tip.

Well, actually I would if it was a decent drink because my actions aren't as strong as my morals. But I still wouldn't tip.

😄😄😄😄😄

This is me after being unable to boycott amazon because I need something delivered by prime 😄

Sillysoggyspaniel · 01/12/2025 18:20

mumofoneAloneandwell · 01/12/2025 18:17

Well, actually I would if it was a decent drink because my actions aren't as strong as my morals. But I still wouldn't tip.

😄😄😄😄😄

This is me after being unable to boycott amazon because I need something delivered by prime 😄

Also me 😂 I need to be a better person. But that would make my life harder!

mumofoneAloneandwell · 01/12/2025 18:25

Sillysoggyspaniel · 01/12/2025 18:20

Also me 😂 I need to be a better person. But that would make my life harder!

This has really made me laugh 😭, same, there are many things I would love to boycott but unfortunately

I get hungry/thirsty/need something delivered 🤷‍♀️

Tryingatleast · 01/12/2025 18:27

Notmyreality · Today 18:07
What?
What’s not clear?

I don’t understand the post either

Cantbloodyrememberthenameonthread · 01/12/2025 18:34

BauhausOfEliott · 01/12/2025 18:15

I’m actually not a prude

I mean, you do sound like one if you’re bothered by a ‘just the tip’ joke. It made me laugh.

Anyone who is too young or innocent for the joke isn’t going to understand it, so it’s harmless.

You don’t have to leave a tip if you don’t want to. Loads and loads of places like that have a tip jar and they don’t have any expectations that people should be obliged to put money into them. It’s just there on the off-chance.

You got an arsey response to saying you don’t want to leave a tip because there was no need for you to say that. If you don’t want to leave a tip, in any establishment, you simply don’t leave one and they won’t be offended. Making a big deal out of not leaving one, and making a point of telling them, was odd, rude behaviour on your part.

The not taking cash isn’t the staff’s decision.

I’m definitely not 😂 quite the opposite. I didn’t say I don’t want to leave a tip off my own accord. I was asked a) by the card reader asking yes or no/red or green. Then the staff pointing to the tip jar and saying “the tip jar is there” when I pressed no on the card machine. So, very much assuming I was giving one.

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KetchUpWithEverythingPls · 01/12/2025 18:36

@Tryingatleast OP feels just making a drink isnt worth leaving a tip for

Also "just the tip" is alluding to the tip of a penis and feels it is inappropriate

She doesnt want to go back, but then will miss out on some good scran

Tryingatleast · 01/12/2025 18:41

KetchUpWithEverythingPls

Thanks!!

Crushed23 · 01/12/2025 18:57

What was the arsey response you got for not leaving a tip?

I have never had this happen. I live in the States and never, ever tip when buying a takeout juice. The UK doesn’t even have a tipping culture. Odd that they got arsey with you.

Crushed23 · 01/12/2025 19:00

Cantbloodyrememberthenameonthread · 01/12/2025 18:34

I’m definitely not 😂 quite the opposite. I didn’t say I don’t want to leave a tip off my own accord. I was asked a) by the card reader asking yes or no/red or green. Then the staff pointing to the tip jar and saying “the tip jar is there” when I pressed no on the card machine. So, very much assuming I was giving one.

I’m sorry, I call bullshit on a staff member pointing and saying “the tip jar is there”. I live in a country with a strong tipping culture and I have never, ever seen this happen anywhere.

BlueJuniper94 · 01/12/2025 19:04

Not cool

Sandcaaarstle · 01/12/2025 19:21

Notmyreality · 01/12/2025 18:07

What?

I think it helps if you know Joe and the Juice is the name of the coffee shop (i didn’t. Read the op three times then had to google).

Cantbloodyrememberthenameonthread · 01/12/2025 19:58

Crushed23 · 01/12/2025 19:00

I’m sorry, I call bullshit on a staff member pointing and saying “the tip jar is there”. I live in a country with a strong tipping culture and I have never, ever seen this happen anywhere.

I’ve not either. Hence my surprise.

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Patchedsocks · 01/12/2025 20:47

Cantbloodyrememberthenameonthread · 01/12/2025 18:34

I’m definitely not 😂 quite the opposite. I didn’t say I don’t want to leave a tip off my own accord. I was asked a) by the card reader asking yes or no/red or green. Then the staff pointing to the tip jar and saying “the tip jar is there” when I pressed no on the card machine. So, very much assuming I was giving one.

The tip jar can jog off. I never tip anyone for doing their job, nor have ever tipped me for helping to save their life. It's what I got paid for as part of my job.

Nearly50omg · 01/12/2025 21:01

a restaurant tried to charge me an automatic service charge of 15% after they handed me a can of coke and a glass 🤬🤬🤬 I asked them what it was for ?!?! And told them very clearly to take it off they were taking the piss! Even a cup of overpriced tea they tried to whack a “service charge” on!!

Nearly50omg · 01/12/2025 21:05

Cantbloodyrememberthenameonthread · 01/12/2025 19:58

I’ve not either. Hence my surprise.

Have ready that Mrs Browns expression when she says “that’s nice!” Sweetly but actually means fuck off!😂😂 You know what you REALLY mean but they don’t but the sweet expression and smile and the “that’s nice” throws them 🤣😂😂

that “that’s nice” is what I’d say when they say there’s the tip jar 😂

understandyourdilemma · 01/12/2025 21:48

It is the current practice of automatically adding a voluntary charge that annoys me the most. I ask for a peppermint tea £3.20. The bill adds a 12.5% service charge and is £3.60. Even an expensive teabag is about 20p so I have already paid £3 to voer the cost of the staff, the premises, the hot water, the washing up.

What has the server done? Got a teabag out of a box, stuck it in a pot, pulled a handle to pour in hot water. Job done. What extra service am I paying 12.5% for? They didn't advise me on the provenance of the peppermint, nor share expert knowledge of how the leaves were grown and harvested. They did not bless the tea in a sacred ritual, or blow magic dust over the cup, or brew it in the tears of a mythical golden rabbit.

Instead, I have to embarrass myself by being so mean as to ask for the 40p additional charge to be removed.

If they're on minimum wage they may be paid the same as me. They add boiling water to a tea bag, I deal with severely demented patients. I love my job, I feel rewarded by it. But nobody pays me 12.5% every time I wipe drool from someone's mouth, or manage confusion, aggression, distress.

curtaintwitcher78 · 01/12/2025 21:54

Has nobody else spotted the Archer reference?

Terrytheweasel · 01/12/2025 22:21

I don’t get it - just the tip and a winkey face and aubergine means nothing to me. Aubergine = penis, I get that but it still doesn’t make any sense

curtaintwitcher78 · 02/12/2025 07:22

Terrytheweasel · 01/12/2025 22:21

I don’t get it - just the tip and a winkey face and aubergine means nothing to me. Aubergine = penis, I get that but it still doesn’t make any sense

It's a quote/running joke from the animated spy series Archer.

Terrytheweasel · 02/12/2025 07:56

curtaintwitcher78 · 02/12/2025 07:22

It's a quote/running joke from the animated spy series Archer.

Thank you - sounds very niche!

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