To ask how you deal with naggers

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I'm sick of being constantly nagged.

Latest is DH. "Where's my wallet?" "Can you do (whatever) for me?". Tonight we had food, drink and finished tidying up. I said is there anything we need to do/you need before I sit down? Asked if he wanted to watch anything.

Him: no.

Me: I'll watch a bit of TV then.

Yet again he talks through, asking random questions and pestering, not just a random chat but constant demands. Yet again I turn the TV off. I can never relax. And we're on holiday!

Do you have people like this and how the hell do you deal with them? Asking in desperation!

He's asking where it is. You don't know. So just say "I don't know" in as bored a tone as you can summon up.

I've started doing that.

Have you tried talking about this? He sounds oblivious and whilst he shouldn't be it's easier to just tell him than wait for him to realise by making passive aggressive remarks.

I have ASD, my ASD son takes absolutely all my 'random question needs answering right now' quota and dh has been firmly told to decide himself or wait if it needs me or isn't urgent.

Tell him.

Yes I have and he keeps doing it so I'm going to use the broken record technique from now on.

Exactly.

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Has he always had everything done for him?

Yes. He's 29 and always lived in the family home home. His mother died a few years ago but did everything for him, then his sister helped him a bit but tbf she has her own life. He's a lovely man but the constant attention seeking drives me mad.

He agreed he's annoying as he did the same with his mother. I can be annoying as well at times.

If it keeps on I'll find him plenty of chores.

Depends who is doing the nagging and what they are nagging about.