I want to believe you

[mumstheword1717]

A friend I've known for over three decades, though not particularly close, recently expressed that she "wants to believe me" concerning a situation involving me and someone she only met two years ago. When she said this, I opened up about how hurt I felt that, after all these years, she would doubt my word, especially since none of the accusations against me are true. Given this situation, would you distance yourself from this friend, maintain the relationship, or perhaps take a different approach? Thank you!

That sucks. Does she think you are a liar or just mistaken as you are not in possession of the full facts or something?

Or is she just scared of the truth eg she fears the worst?

I read the original post a few times and still don't understand the situation.
Can you elaborate?

"Then believe me." Why wouldn't she?

She either had good reason to believe you or she doesn't. Either way, it doesn't sound like you're friends anymore.

Sack her off.

Well if you’re not close anyway then losing her as a friend isn’t a big deal is it? It’s annoying when you’re not believed over someone else’s account of a situation but maybe they just feel closer to that person despite having known them for a shorter period of time. Also without the context it’s hard to give any detailed advice about an alternative way to handle things.

@mumstheword1717
Have you given her the full account of the situation as you see it, or have you only told her a small part and asked her to believe you based on that alone?
If she knows the other person involved and has heard a fuller explanation from their side, and then you decide to not explain things properly, then this puts her in a difficult position.

Having said this I personally would hope to have a pretty good judge of my friend’s character after knowing them decades, but it would still make things difficult if they refused to share with me the details or their feelings about the situation to know what was going on.

Having known someone for 30 years on a ‘not close’ basis isn’t really much of a basis for taking someone’s word for some event they didn’t witness, if they’ve also heard a more credible account from a closer friend.