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To ask what high earners do all day?

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WearyCat · 29/11/2025 20:10

I genuinely don’t know what CEOs, that type of role, people earning over 150K pa actually do. How do they spend their time?

Not whether they are worth the salary. But what do those jobs involve on a day to day basis? All I have is an idea based on films and guesswork. Is it golf? Lunches? Meetings? What sort of decisions are they making? What pressures are they facing?

I’m interested, curious, and I don’t see how I would ever find out in real life because I don’t move in circles where people have that sort of job.

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SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 30/11/2025 22:17

A lot of what is written in these posts sounds like hell to me. The art of management used to be knowing how to delegate. Dies this mot apply any more?

Maybe AI will take some of the stress out of your jobs.

GoodNightss · 30/11/2025 22:18

Not complain that people earning even more than them should be taxed or are earning "obscene amounts".

ItsAWonderfulLifeforMe · 30/11/2025 22:32

I’ve read a lot of these posts with interest (I posted in the early pages about my partner earning approx 150k) and I’ve started to realise it’s a miracle he doesn’t have to work weekends, past 5.30/ 6 every night, or holidays (excluding checking the odd email but usually he doesn’t and doesn’t even have them on his phone/ take work laptop with him). He works very hard, and it’s intense sometimes for the hours he works but wfh full time, no overseas travel, London trip once in a blue moon. The toll it takes on his personal life is no-where near as intense as some other posters and I’m so grateful for that

PinkPepperPolka · 30/11/2025 22:59

I’m not a CEO. I’m expected to turn up on a new project (usually one that has gone wrong), familiarise myself with the technology, and identify the problem areas. Then fix them, deliver the project, and try and keep everyone happy. There are a lot of meetings, audits, analysis, argument, and stress. Ultimately I sign on the dotted line to say something is good enough. It does get reviewed by others, but these things could kill lots of people if we are wrong.
Mainly what I’m paid for is the years of education, experience and training that sit behind the work.
I’ve never played golf.

Tangfastic71 · 30/11/2025 23:11

StressieBessy · 30/11/2025 00:14

I’m a lawyer and earn around £400k.

The big picture is that I am required to advise clients on highly complex matters at lightning speed, in the knowledge that it will cost them millions (sometimes tens or hundreds or millions) if I or my team are wrong. The advice and solutions we put in place require huge amounts of technical knowledge, detailed research, analysis of large volumes of data, extremely high quality drafting and near perfect error control. Clients can often treat us like shit because they think that is only fair given our hourly rate.

I start my day answering emails at 6.30am and that runs through until I sleep. I work most weekends. New things come in all the time and the learning curve is very steep.

I have multiple calls and meetings per day and am called into urgent unscheduled meetings at the drop of the hat - eg can you join a board meeting in 1 hour on a matter you haven’t dealt with before to advise the client on a decision which is business critical.

I manage a team of 30 who interrupt me through the day and require my sign off for their decisions and advice (also on complex issues). The buck stops with me. I deal with the team’s unreasonable and unhappy clients when issues are escalated to me. I have other additional management and risk-related roles within the firm on top.

I am required to market the firm and bring in millions of pounds worth of business. I am constantly in (subtle) sales mode. Most encounters with professionals or work contacts are tainted by the thought about whether I can persuade this person to give me work.

I have never played golf. I often miss lunch and other meals. Client lunches are tricky affairs: lengthy sales pitches which eat into the time I have available to do the actual work. I’d rather have an al desko.

There is no off switch. The money comes with a huge amount of responsibility and stress.

Wanna swap?

Whilst I’m in a different field…this post most directly speaks to the kind of multi-tasking, constant pressure and day to day responsibility that I deal with. I have a bigger team but client risk is probably less pressured. The money compensates for the work but I’m not sure anyone can understand what it feels like to wake up at 6 to problems you need to solve quickly and go to bed having spent all day in 16 teams meetings whilst also fielding calls, emails, teams messages, deadlines for research, WhatsApp messages for urgent issues, a speaking engagement, travel time when trying to sort issues etc etc etc. it’s exhausting, can be occasionally exhilarating but is mostly just stress.

AGirlCalledJohnny · 30/11/2025 23:12

Marry well

Reebokker · 30/11/2025 23:20

I don’t think you need to be a CEO to earn over 150k. Also it’s not uncommon for CEOs to be on many millions.
It is surprising that some people don’t realise how much money some people earn

SumUp · 30/11/2025 23:23

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 30/11/2025 22:17

A lot of what is written in these posts sounds like hell to me. The art of management used to be knowing how to delegate. Dies this mot apply any more?

Maybe AI will take some of the stress out of your jobs.

Yes the detail is delegated, but as CEO, you need to have the overview and extract the information you need to make the best decisions. The hours are usually long and the pressure relentless.

Franpie · 30/11/2025 23:25

Meetings, meetings and more fucking meetings!

Every year I do a cull and try to clear my diary of pointless weekly meetings that I really do not need to be in but they soon build back up again.

AgnesMcDoo · 30/11/2025 23:25

Lots of meetings, public speaking, media interviews, conferences, networking and lots and lots of pressure. Decisions, travel, stress. I rarely eat lunch and I’ve only ever played crazy golf with my kids.

Endorewitch · 30/11/2025 23:54

WearyCat · 29/11/2025 20:17

Yes but what does the work involve? I’m a teacher. I know what my work involves and I’ve done other jobs like cleaning, admin, bar work, i can see other jobs so I have an idea of what their day looks like. I’ve never been I close proximity to someone earning that sort of money. Even head teachers, I don’t know what they do all day long. I’m not saying high earners are not busy, nor that they’re not worth their salary. But what exactly are they doing?

Edited

It is a pointless question. All CEO,s have different jobs dependencies which area of business they work in. They plan strategy. They make decisions on projects. They network. They supervise They do the things which make a business successful. Playing golf is for the weekend. They have the huge responsibility of ensuring the busines is successful. A very strange question indeed. They wil have different skills and responsibilities sending if they are retail,technical construction ,advertising AI etc

mrlistersgelfbride · 01/12/2025 00:34

My partner earns over 100k (in IT) , not quite what you asked but we are in the NW where that is considered a high earner.

He worked abroad a lot in his late 20s, did a lot of exams and is self taught.

However now he sits watching films and gaming with his laptop on most days , at home, answering queries when needed and has a few meetings each week.
Occasionally (a few times a year now) he will have to get up in the night to sort something out. But it’s a charmed existence (looks like it to me anyway) and he’s lucky.

Crushed23 · 01/12/2025 01:30

Christmasagainohno · 29/11/2025 20:13

The higher up you go, the more you have to deal with difficult people. That's pretty stressful.

Meetings, more meetings, planning, budgets, making decisions, interacting with people throughout the organisation, directing. Travelling.

Edited

This.

It’s mainly dealing with diabolical people.

KM123456 · 01/12/2025 05:18

In addition to all the answers here, the higher up you go the less your time is your own: you are expected to be available 24/7. I have seen senior managers take work phone calls while on vacation out of the country. That adds to the stress.

financialcareerstuff · 01/12/2025 09:38

KM123456 · 01/12/2025 05:18

In addition to all the answers here, the higher up you go the less your time is your own: you are expected to be available 24/7. I have seen senior managers take work phone calls while on vacation out of the country. That adds to the stress.

Agree you tend to always be on call…..this is for a few reasons.

  1. the higher you get in management, the more likely your role is knowledge or decision-making based - enabling you to do it from anywhere, and contribute relatively quickly (eg by weighing in on one section of a meeting then dialling off)
  2. you tend to have some kind of ownership stake. That can be literally that you are a shareholder, or your performance bonus rests on your results, or you are directly responsible for clients and/or winning business- which means you work on the client clock.
  3. your work is international- meaning different timezones
  4. There is only one of you. Shift work, by definition is when you have multiple people trained to do the same task. Once you re a CHRO or CEO or the top barrister in your team in a certain area of expertise, you can’t clock off and know someone else is doing your job.

there are rare exceptions to these patterns, like an airline pilot, whose job is so high stakes and high skilled that they are well paid, but still ‘clock on and clock off’ shift style. It is impossible for them to do their job virtually (for now), and there are strict regulations about their rest and time off.

But the large number of high paid jobs fit with the above principles.

However, the aspect of this that is rarely mentioned is the flexibility that comes with this. Even though you are expected to be available always, you are not held to account for your hour to hour presence in the same way. People come in late, schedule meetings around personal commitments (which are often not declared), work from home because they are feeling under the weather or want to pop out to the doctor or a school event for their kid etc….. They have specific pressure points - such as a key presentation, when they really have to be there. But most other things are established by negotiation. The better respected you are and the more unique your skills, the more people will schedule around you.

Most people at that level also have a complex network of responsibilities that cut across departments or multiple clients/companies. This means there is lack of transparency. If you say ‘I can’t do Thursday morning- how about Friday’ nobody knows whether you are having a picnic with your partner, with a different client, or flying to Brussels on Thursday morning…. They just tend to accept it. All this lack of clarity is even greater since the explosion of virtual working.

This is a huge bonus and privilege of this kind of managerial work that is often unacknowledged. It can be a simple benefit that allows you to schedule and balance your life effectively while being committed and effective in your job. It can also be a mechanism for obfuscation- making poor performance and coasting harder to quickly detect. In top management, this would be flagged through results quite quickly. For middle management in big corporations, it’s a lot less clear and there are a good number of people who have worked out how to play the system- do enough to scrape through, turn up to the countless meetings and sound active, while not actually contributing a great deal. Their productivity is pretty poor, compared to people in shift work on far less salary, doing way more valuable things, in far more gruelling circumstances.

I think quite a few on this thread have overemphasized the ‘crucial hard work’ angle of working at this level, probably triggered by the initial post about golf. It is true a lot of hard and high impact work is done, but that’s true at every pay level.

ItsAWonderfulLifeforMe · 01/12/2025 09:45

I posted previously about how lucky I am to have a high earning partner (approx 150k max) that doesn’t work crazy hours or weekends. I’ve been thinking about this, it came across as a bit smug and I would to clarify.

What I didn’t say is that I am a SAHM that takes on pretty much every single mental load task / finance stuff / admin/ child associated task / housework task to enable him to work intensively during his hours. He sometimes has time to go to the gym in the day. Just the last week I’ve done loads for the Xmas fair, bought the Xmas presents, sorted play outfits, done all housework, checked up on granny, looked at holiday etc etc the list goes on. Including obvs washing his pants and cooking his meals (mostly although terrible cook)

So for all those power house women on this thread that have the high earning roles and have to do all of the above (highly unlikely that they have a man helping them to pick up all this) or waking up a 4am worrying about Xmas presents or have to sort Rainbows uniform, or worrying if they’ve sorted mufti day I think you are incredible!!! (And I wish things were more equal for you if it’s not currently)

ItsAWonderfulLifeforMe · 01/12/2025 10:04

(And obviously having all school runs sorted and childcare for every school holiday hugely reduces any stress on him vs others trying to juggle childcare)

gannett · 01/12/2025 10:16

Are there ANY megabucks-earners whose life doesn't involve endless meetings? Who get to have relatively solitary working days without all this exhausting human interaction?

I am not a people person. If talking to other humans all day every day is what it takes to earn megabucks you can keep it. But I wonder if the ceiling for solitude-loving introverts is higher than I've assumed.

PermanentTemporary · 01/12/2025 10:57

@gannett I think there are but probably quite niche skills. There are some creative professionals who make a lot of money with a lot of solitary time, but even then I think the most successful tend to be good at the public side as well - thinking of artists like Anselm Kiefer or Dale Chiluly who operate with huge studios of assistants, or very successful writers who these days spend a lot of time on self promotion, or composers like Max Richter who have to be able to work with fellow musicians. I wonder if in some collaborative partnerships there is one who does the extroverted stuff and one who doesn’t? Gilbert and George both seem to be introverts though.

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 01/12/2025 11:05

gannett · 01/12/2025 10:16

Are there ANY megabucks-earners whose life doesn't involve endless meetings? Who get to have relatively solitary working days without all this exhausting human interaction?

I am not a people person. If talking to other humans all day every day is what it takes to earn megabucks you can keep it. But I wonder if the ceiling for solitude-loving introverts is higher than I've assumed.

I have lots of days with no meetings and a very healthy life-work balance. I am in the public sector, but not in the UK. I have huge flexibility to pick and choose my own projects and timetable.

Edit: I have a (low-paid) husband who pulls his own weight but works odd hours so I do a lot of the household stuff by default. Between us we do all school runs, pickups and events.

HootyMcBoobys · 01/12/2025 11:07

KM123456 · 01/12/2025 05:18

In addition to all the answers here, the higher up you go the less your time is your own: you are expected to be available 24/7. I have seen senior managers take work phone calls while on vacation out of the country. That adds to the stress.

This.
Husband a high earner. Much more than figure quoted in post.
Takes his mobile phone everywhere, and I do mean everywhere. Is a prisoner to his work, even on holiday. Phonecalls every day at home even when he is "finished", and because the main office is based in America, online team meetings and phonecalls in the wee hours of the morning very very often with no regard to the time difference, after having worked from 8am until 8pm at night and then on the laptop until approx 1 am every morning in addition. Straight back to work after 10 hour flights across the world etc, goes from the airport to the office.
I threatened to throw his phone in the pool on holiday. He was taking calls in the airport on the way THERE. It's very frustrating but it's the price we pay for his salary. It really angers me when some people say that high earners don't deserve their salary, he sweats blood for his, and the sacrifice is enormous. The buck stops with him if anything goes wrong at his site ( and it IS life or death literally in some cases).
Can't wait until he can retire.

Crushed23 · 01/12/2025 11:11

financialcareerstuff · 01/12/2025 09:38

Agree you tend to always be on call…..this is for a few reasons.

  1. the higher you get in management, the more likely your role is knowledge or decision-making based - enabling you to do it from anywhere, and contribute relatively quickly (eg by weighing in on one section of a meeting then dialling off)
  2. you tend to have some kind of ownership stake. That can be literally that you are a shareholder, or your performance bonus rests on your results, or you are directly responsible for clients and/or winning business- which means you work on the client clock.
  3. your work is international- meaning different timezones
  4. There is only one of you. Shift work, by definition is when you have multiple people trained to do the same task. Once you re a CHRO or CEO or the top barrister in your team in a certain area of expertise, you can’t clock off and know someone else is doing your job.

there are rare exceptions to these patterns, like an airline pilot, whose job is so high stakes and high skilled that they are well paid, but still ‘clock on and clock off’ shift style. It is impossible for them to do their job virtually (for now), and there are strict regulations about their rest and time off.

But the large number of high paid jobs fit with the above principles.

However, the aspect of this that is rarely mentioned is the flexibility that comes with this. Even though you are expected to be available always, you are not held to account for your hour to hour presence in the same way. People come in late, schedule meetings around personal commitments (which are often not declared), work from home because they are feeling under the weather or want to pop out to the doctor or a school event for their kid etc….. They have specific pressure points - such as a key presentation, when they really have to be there. But most other things are established by negotiation. The better respected you are and the more unique your skills, the more people will schedule around you.

Most people at that level also have a complex network of responsibilities that cut across departments or multiple clients/companies. This means there is lack of transparency. If you say ‘I can’t do Thursday morning- how about Friday’ nobody knows whether you are having a picnic with your partner, with a different client, or flying to Brussels on Thursday morning…. They just tend to accept it. All this lack of clarity is even greater since the explosion of virtual working.

This is a huge bonus and privilege of this kind of managerial work that is often unacknowledged. It can be a simple benefit that allows you to schedule and balance your life effectively while being committed and effective in your job. It can also be a mechanism for obfuscation- making poor performance and coasting harder to quickly detect. In top management, this would be flagged through results quite quickly. For middle management in big corporations, it’s a lot less clear and there are a good number of people who have worked out how to play the system- do enough to scrape through, turn up to the countless meetings and sound active, while not actually contributing a great deal. Their productivity is pretty poor, compared to people in shift work on far less salary, doing way more valuable things, in far more gruelling circumstances.

I think quite a few on this thread have overemphasized the ‘crucial hard work’ angle of working at this level, probably triggered by the initial post about golf. It is true a lot of hard and high impact work is done, but that’s true at every pay level.

Agree with most of these points, but one thing that’s missing is how much one THINKS about work in these roles. I’m mid-senior in a high paying profession and I routinely think about work when I’m not working, I worry about things, I often dream about work. It’s all-consuming in a way that many clock-in-clock-out jobs are not.

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 01/12/2025 11:12

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 01/12/2025 11:05

I have lots of days with no meetings and a very healthy life-work balance. I am in the public sector, but not in the UK. I have huge flexibility to pick and choose my own projects and timetable.

Edit: I have a (low-paid) husband who pulls his own weight but works odd hours so I do a lot of the household stuff by default. Between us we do all school runs, pickups and events.

Edited

Quoting myself to add I had a meeting this morning but now have nothing in my diary until Thursday morning. I will head home after lunch and WFH focusing on a couple of writing projects for the next couple of days. No-one will ask where I am or what I am doing. Bliss.

whattheysay · 01/12/2025 11:15

My dh earns this, he travels a lot and the rest of the time he works from home. When he’s at home he can be quite flexible in how he works. I can’t say I see him sitting at his desk for 12 hours per day as we do sit and have coffee and chat everyday but he has a lot of meetings and sends emails and talks to people on the phone and obviously does some work as he’s very sought after in his field and has a lot of responsibility. He does trouble shooting amongst other things and the buck does stop with him. If he gets it wrong he’s in big shit he can end up in court

GoodNightss · 01/12/2025 11:37

ItsAWonderfulLifeforMe · 01/12/2025 09:45

I posted previously about how lucky I am to have a high earning partner (approx 150k max) that doesn’t work crazy hours or weekends. I’ve been thinking about this, it came across as a bit smug and I would to clarify.

What I didn’t say is that I am a SAHM that takes on pretty much every single mental load task / finance stuff / admin/ child associated task / housework task to enable him to work intensively during his hours. He sometimes has time to go to the gym in the day. Just the last week I’ve done loads for the Xmas fair, bought the Xmas presents, sorted play outfits, done all housework, checked up on granny, looked at holiday etc etc the list goes on. Including obvs washing his pants and cooking his meals (mostly although terrible cook)

So for all those power house women on this thread that have the high earning roles and have to do all of the above (highly unlikely that they have a man helping them to pick up all this) or waking up a 4am worrying about Xmas presents or have to sort Rainbows uniform, or worrying if they’ve sorted mufti day I think you are incredible!!! (And I wish things were more equal for you if it’s not currently)

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