Eighteen month history of MIL blocking and scapegoating me, then when she unblocked me I didn't make contact (she didn't say anything, just unblocked me). I've posted about it before, the outcome was I wasn't being unreasonable.
MIL has seen me, DH, and our toddler once since he got back in contact because she had told BIL that she'd had "a cancer scare" and he told DH that he wasn't going to split the inheritance if it all got left to him.
Since that meeting (carefully timed for one drink at a gastropub- so I'd planned what I was going to have for dinner- during which she ran off to the toilet crying when I returned to the table after walking around with my DD because my DH had said something to upset her) she's made no effort or suggestion to meet up until she messaged DH to 'ask' (read: state) they she sees our DD for one hour on Christmas Day. Our DD is one year old and it takes a lot of work to get her used to e.g. the people that work at her playgroups. It took my parents eighteen months of trying for her to spend time with them in an adjacent room to the one I was in.
I'm not going to try to stop my DH's family from seeing DD but AIBU to think that MIL should be putting a lot more effort in- especially with me, the SAHM- if she wants to have any sort of functional relationship with my and DH's DD?
(N.b. I had a grandmother who didn't put effort in with me and my siblings (because my dad was her least favourite child). Once we were old enough to advocate for ourselves, we just didn't see her.)