How often do you bring up an ex with your current partner?

[Ambagreek]

BF and I are in a relatively new relationship. Only been dating 5 months. And he said I bring up exes a lot. Objectively I don’t. I know obviously it’s not the most sane thing to do in a relationship.

But if I get asked a direct question (like I did last night and the thing that started this conversation) then I will respond honestly. Last night I was asked who I attended a certain event with. And I answered honestly…my ex.

I don’t just randomly bring up exes. Right now it does seem like I say “I went with an ex” quite a lot because we’re getting to know one another - talking about past holidays, festivals etc.

BF is the weird one, right?

If it’s never you instigating it but only ever responding honestly to questions like ‘who did you go to Paris with?’ then no, it’s not a you problem.

I don’t go on about my exes but if referring to times when I was with them I would focus more on the place or stage of life than them. “When I was at uni” or “When I lived in Germany” rather than “when I was with Steve” or “when I lived with Kurt” or even “someone I knew at uni used to…” rather than “my ex used to…”

I tend to do similar re “someone I knew used to” or linking to life stages. I wouldn’t say “when I was blah blah” if it wasn’t 100% necessary

I'd say if he keeps asking who you went with then it's a him problem. I don't ask who else was with the person in talking to cos likelihood is I don't know them so it's irrelevant.

Next time he asks say it was noone he knows.

We never have i dont see a need we both have history but it is now past, no jealousy just no interest

Never, no need as it’s all in the past.

Never.