AIBU with my DH phone use

[Flowergirl97]

Hi, I'm not sure where to turn, so I'm hoping you'll tell me to just get over myself. My DH is constantly on his phone. He reaches for it before opening his eyes in the morning and rarely puts it down before falling sleep with it in bed. He takes it to the toilet, he's on it when he's getting dressed, when he's eating, when we're watching TV. When he gets home from work he sits in the car on it for 10 mins before coming in. I've tried (lots of ways) to get him to bed, but he stays up for hours on the phone instead and when he does come to bed he's on it until he falls asleep. We barely communicate anymore because none of it goes in and we have the same conversation days later. I've tried talking to him about it but he just brushes it off. I'm really not sure what to do?

I don’t know who or why anybody would tell you to get over yourself. Phones are designed to be addictive and it sounds like he’s all in. It’s awful to feel you barely communicate. It sounds like you’ve been clear with him on how it’s making you feel?

Escapism? What's he escaping from?

He is addicted to his phone OP.

Like all addictions only he can do something about it. And first he has to realise he has a problem and it doesn’t sound as though he is ready to do that.

You have tried talking to him OP. But I think you really need to impress on him how serious this is for your relationship. Because honestly what is the point in your marriage when he is no longer a functioning partner? You might as well be by yourself if all his attention and time is focused on his phone.

I agree with Howtogetthrough..A bit toungue in cheek but perhaps text when you are with him "I have been thinking about booking an appointment with a divorce lawyer for next week...coming?" may get his attention.

Nothing more revolting than a phone addict. Dealbreaker for me. Are you inna position to divorce?

Thanks all. I tried talking to him about it again tonight and we had a big row.
I wish I knew what to do, I don't want to leave him but an running out of patience.

Why is it always one extreme to another on this platform…. The guy is addicted to his phone and one of the advice is to divorce rather then choose therapy or some other way to tackle the addiction.

I've been him. I am literally sitting in my car right now before going home, but that's more because it's the calm before the storm if you get me. I'm working really hard on reducing screen time and what did it for me was I was up one day till like 3 am watching when I had to be up at 6 and it hit me like a ton of bricks...I have to drive my kids around tomorrow on 3 hours sleep. I could kill someone else, my kids, myself or all 3. It was a real wake up call