To think I’m being treated differently?

[Polly199068]

I’ve dropped from being very obese to being a normal healthy size with lots of hard work over the last year. I’m really feeling like I’m being treated differently, probably better by men at work, but maybe a bit worse by women. Some of my friends who I thought would be really supportive and pleased for me have made some funny little comments like ‘you’re looking a bit gaunt’ (I’ve got a bmi of 24 so I’m not skinny-skinny’ and asking me if I’ve lost anything in my bottom half (I’ve lost 6 stone! I’m pear shaped but it’s obvious that I’ve shrunk). I’m feeling a bit sad about it to be honest in lots of ways and I’m realising I was quite ignored at work before.

The green eyed monster is a terrible thing. 🤢

Hold your head up and strut your stuff as the new hot lady in town.😁

Youve done brilliant, i did the same, i found out people seemed to like me when i was big but then all of a sudden didnt when they seen that in their eyes" I was doing better than them" pure jealousy dont let their negative behaviour get you down, some so called family showed their true colours. Let them be bitter, your stronger and achived what they find impossible

Oh it’s always the same. I lost weight around 15 years ago. From a 16 to a 10. I’m 5ft 1. I got told I looked ‘emaciated’. Delving into why women need to say things like this is just so pointless and depressing.

You won't be looking gaunt with a BMI of 24 but as you say you were 'very obese', you probably look a bit gaunt to them until they get used to the new look.

If you walked into a room full of people who'd never met you before, they'd see you totally differently.

I agree with this, I lots a lot of weight and was a bit annoyed at comments like that but then my similarly overweight brother lost a lot of weight and he did look gaunt and too thin to me. I wasn't envious as I was already at my own goal and very happy, also I was relived he had lost weight for his health but my brain was so used to seeing his face looking a certain way for so long that when it changed it didn't seem right and too a while to get used to.

It's similar to when someone you know wears very heavy makeup every day, and then you see them without it and think they look ill.

They'd look fine to everyone else but just completely different to you.

How are you handling the better treatment by the men? Are you, yourself starting to base worth on body size?

@LadyTable Exactly.

I'm surprised people are commenting at all. I always thought it was rude to comment about size, weight loss, weight gain etc?

6 stone? Lots of hard work? Doesn’t sound like it…

www.mumsnet.com/talk/weight-loss-injections/5363125-how-much-weight-have-you-lost-on-mounjaro?reply=148248310

3st with drugs and 3st without. it was hard work.

here - in the wilds of the mumsnet safari plain - a stunning example of the perfect specimen…. This is what it looks like when ….

… someone spectacularly proves the OPs point.

Doesn't matter how you lost it. Mounjaro, a Cabbage Soup diet, a gastric bypass or WeightWatchers. There is no moral superiority in a particular way.

I lost four stone to be a size 12 and yes, I get treated a bit differently.

Men are politer to me. There is less disdain for me personally when I tell them no about a work issue. (My job involves saying no a lot). They accept my professional input better.

A couple of women have commented on it to say I look good but then that also suggests they thought I looked terrible before, I suppose!

I make a choice every time not to care about any comment, positive or negative. My body, my business.

Any reason for your nasty comment? Sounds like you’d fit in well with the OP’s work colleagues. Talk about proving the point of the thread!

Well done OP, an incredible achievement.
Don't pay an attention to those that are mean.