Is this appropriate or not?

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I thought I’d ask on here first - my Daughter has her party tomorrow and I’ve invited all the girls from our class and one from the other one (2form entry primary). The mum from other class is asking if I can ask my class on group chat if anyone is willing to give her a lift. I’ve explained I can’t as I’m going early to set up so she’s asking if I can ask my class. I don’t know why but I’m finding this rather awkward and feel a bit weird about doing so! What do others think?

I think you are overthinking it. Just do it, it's not that big a deal and if its a no then you pass on the message. It's a lift, not a kidney

I don’t understand why it’s inappropriate. I’d not give it a a second thought - any class group chat I’ve been in have had similar requests for lifts.

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I don’t think this is a big deal? I’d just ask, if anyone says they can pass her number on so they can arrange, if nobody replies such is life.

I’d put something like, ‘Is anyone able to offer a lift to Xs party tomorrow pls for one child who’s from the other class? Let me know if so and I’ll pass the number on, thank you’.

Yeah I’d find this awkward. It’s almost like she’s putting the onus on you to sort the lift. Could she be temporarily added to the other group chat to ask then leave after the party?

Im surprised she would let her child go in a car with somebody she doesn’t know! Is she expecting you to vouch for said person?

I don't see what the problem is in asking? If no one can then I'm sure she will get a taxi or something but it seems unreasonable to not post a message given she would have done it herself had she been part of the group chat.

She’s expecting someone to pick her and her kid up and drop back after

You could just forward her message, but agree its a bit annoying

Annoying and rude. Is there no bus route?

She’s just asking, she’s not expecting anything. Nobody is obliged, but someone might really easily be able to do it.

By the time you’ve faffed around on here worrying unnecessarily about this you could’ve popped a message in the chat and be done with it.

Will it make me look bad? If I’m being honest I don’t really know the mums very well. The 2 ones I do know aren’t coming.

How is it rude? God some people will find any reason to be offended, isn’t it exhausting?

No because if they can’t do it they’ll just ignore the message.

Why would it make you look bad? It's literally the whole point of having a class WhatsApp group isn't it?

You've obviously invited her child because your child enjoys their company. It's really not a huge deal to ask and if no one can I'm sure she's perfectly capable of getting a taxi.

No.
“Hi all! Sally’s mum from class 2 has asked me to share the below message as she’s struggling to get Sally over to Katie’s party. I’d have taken her but unfortunately have to get there earlier to set up. Would be amazing if someone could help. Look forward to seeing you all at the party! Have a good weekend. X”

It's not awkward, rude, annoying or any of the other ways people are overthinking it. It's a simple message:
Hey, is Beth from Lion class is coming to Mia's party tomorrow but has no transport. Is anyone able to pick her up and drop her back with your girls? Thank you!".

Job done. If anyone can do it they will and think nothing of it. If nobody can they just won't reply and still will think nothing of it.

The levels of huge introspection over very normal and inconsequential interactions is getting out of hand on here.

I have done similar many times and if I haven’t been able to help out I have never been offended by anyone asking.

Also it’s a good way to get to know other parents as you never know when you might be the one asking for help so your dc doesn’t miss out

So not asking much then 😂

I come on here sometimes and am flabbergasted how people get through day to day life when things as trivial as this require a group discussion and consensus and several different drafts before a message can be sent.

She's asking you to ask a completely ordinary, normal question in a class group chat, not make a demand of human sacrifice.

No. Not much. A lift to someone to a place you are already going really isn't a significant favour.

It's not exactly a big ask. The other parents are all going to the venue anyway. You make it sound like she's asking the other parents for a lift to the airport at 2am.

No advice OP, but yes I would find it awkward too. You're asking for a second hand favour from people you barely know.

Completely agree, I don’t know how some people get anything done with this level of over analysis and concern over completely normal situations, I’m baffled.

It’s just an ask, everyone can just ignore it if they can’t do it, anyone giving it any more thought than that needs to get a grip 🤣