AIBU to think this woman is rude and obnoxious?

[clutchingpearls11]

A friend's friend has moved into my area. Naturally, I wanted to be welcoming and did invite her to a couple of things. However, I find her startingly rude. Some examples:

• before moving here, she asked twice if there are "many chavs living in this area"((???)
• advised that she cannot send her daughter to the same school as my son as they have mixed classes and her daughter is "so far ahead of all the other children, she would be thrown back in her abilities"
• many other things along those lines that I can't say otherwise it would be outing

I've tried to distance myself but she keeps texting me. AIBU to not respond anymore? Problem is this is a small place and we'll definitely cross paths again.

I live in a small community, but I have no qualms not including someone who will bring me stress and whom I don't like.

Of course you are not being unreasonable to not want to peruse a friendship with someone you do not like.

I would just be polite when i run into her and leave it at that

Maybe she is right about her DD, that’s ok. Girls do better in single sex education. Apart from that just avoid, be polite.

She sounds ignorant. I wouldn't rushing to be friends with her. Can you leave longer and longer gaps before replying? Or 'grey rock' type replies.

Respond as little as possible, but, please, keep us up-to-date because this sounds like a source of potential fun in 2026

Your'e right! I need to grow a backbone. I find it very hard not to be overly polite and include people.

Haha, this made me laugh 😂Honestly the stuff she comes out with is so startingly rude one doesn't know what to respond

Keep a note and then, in a few years, when you’re in a creative phase, you’ll have a fantastic source of material for your creative writing course.

Yes she is very ignorant and I think very entitled. She complains about absolutely everything, lived in several places but liked it nowhere... I have no idea why my friend is friends with her if that makes sense...

Just distance and be polite. Thank goodness her child isn't going to the same school as yours.

Oh she sounds fun! 😂😂😂

Of course you should distance yourself, and cease with the people pleasing, but stay loosely in touch as she could be a source of a lot of laughs for you as you watch her trying to make friends whilst being so casually rude.

I know right!! I am absolutely so relieved that they didn't join our school!

It sounds as though moving into your area is an enforced decision because of circumstances and she is anxious for everyone to know she is " a cut above" - yet another phrase that reminds me of The wonderful Likely Lads !

Her attitude isn't going to win her any friends though as nobody likes someone who obviously sees themselves as socially superior.

I agree with pp who suggest having as little to do with her as possible but be polite. It may be when she settles in a bit and she sees that her apprehensions, which she seems to have, are unfounded then you might get on with her better.

No, that's the other weird thing. They lived in quite a "posh" area, they had problems with the neighbors (I must say though that this was probably not that lady's fault, it did sound like a difficult situation). They then agonized for about two years where else to move to and our area was one of the ones they considered (about half an hour from where they lived previously). So now they are renting and waiting for a house to come up for sale that's good enough for them 😅

What’s wrong with not wanting to live near chavs ? Do you think she was implying something ? 😆🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yeah, I'm well below her probably 😂😂😂

Tell her you can't talk to her anymore as you are far too ordinary and unimportant to even think to enter the presence of such an eminently superior personage.

I would be polite due to mutual friend so I would reply occasionally. But definitely wouldn't be spending any time with her.

I would have looked confused and said "What's a chav?" (just to hear what her stupid response would be).
About the school I would have said "Oh what school is she going too then?" and then done that "Mmmm interesting..." thing while nodding my head (to show I didn't really care that much).

Brilliant 😂

She sounds ghastly. I wouldn't answer her texts and treat her with the derision she deserves.

Thank you. I have genuinely never met anyone so rude I cannot stop thinking about her.

lived in several places but liked it nowhere.

I had a male friend like this growing up. Not rude like you describe but constantly complaining about there they lived such and such a place would be so much better, grass always greener somewhere else. Unfortunately every time they moved to where they perceived as better it wasn't and they moved on again. (I am talking different countries too). I eventually suggested that maybe they are not happy and no amount of moving would solve that.

She sounds awful. I wouldn't give her the time of day, personally.