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Can we all take a moment to pray for Thea, living life on the brink of poverty at £6k a month (£3.2k of which is UC).

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BananaramaDefence · 27/11/2025 23:57

In a good month when UC gives full entitlement, Thea has a total of £6,142.00, from £2,800 in take-home pay and £3,342 in universal credit plus child benefit. Her monthly expenses such as childcare, rent, council tax, energy and food etc are usually around £6000. She says: "So it’s living very much on the edge."

And now the cap is removed she will get more!!

From this: Pregnant mum-of-four: 'Budget benefit change saved our Christmas' - The Mirror https://share.google/QGbNeuIKPAmg1qNG5

No wonder people get pissed of with welfare in this country. I work 40 hours plus a week, have children, have to pay a mortgage, childcare and I earn way less than this!!!

No child should live in poverty but at the same time no family should get this muxh in benefits.

Before people say, yes but it's to pay rent and collate, I also have to pay all that and my mortgage is half my wage!!

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EuclidianGeometryFan · 28/11/2025 14:39

OneBookTooMany · 28/11/2025 14:25

Let me take your points one by one.

  1. My mother bought a house, an asset, she cleaned floors, worked in factories, gutted fish in order to buy it. She has gone into care. That asset has been sold to pay for her care and in fact has almost entirely gone. Her friend, who did not own such an asset and did not work to own one, has also gone into care:the same care home! The council pay her costs.

However, even if this were not to be the case-everyone has the choice to work to buy an asset even if that is a bedsit in Burnley. If you choose to live on benefits, then you choose-actually choose-not to buy an asset.

In the eyes of most people, that is perfectly reasonable. You should not expect to own a home if you do not work. You may choose to buy even the mst modest bedsit if you do work.

Is that unreasonable?

  1. The government should not be paying the accommodation bill of anyone who can work. Why would this be expected? You seem to think it is wrong that the government will not stump up the whole rent and they have to top it up? No-one tops up my rent. Do they top up yours?

You say it should do so if they have "kids or live in an expensive area" and that others don't get it of they have a mortgage, don't have children or live in a cheaper area. You say this is a reason as to why some get welfare payments and others don't?

Why? They are all choices. If one is on welfare, the first thing to be knocked on the head is the choice of living in an expensive area. Should we all be able to live in expensive areas if we work there, lie up there or just fancy it.

Do you think that might be a problem when we all demand that or do you think that right is open to welfare claimants only?

Why? Why do they have that right and I, a worker, don't.

If I were to have five children should that entitle me to bigger.better accommodation paid for by someone else that Mary down the road who only has two and supports them herself.

  1. You say to suggest commuting from a less expensive area would be detrimental to a welfare claimant by suggesting that their children would have to be in childcare for longer or that it would mean that low paid workers could no longer work there.

Firstly, many people who actually work have to leave their children in childcare-are you saying that welfare claimants shouldn't have to do what so many working mums have to do?

Why?
if they can't afford to live in London, then they must get low paid work elsewhere or commute.

Millions of working mums have to commute. Are you saying that welfare claimants shouldn't have to do this? Why?

  1. You say children are a public good and society should pay for them.

If that is the case, why is every parent not given accommodation costs, regardless of what they earn. Why are all children not given food and clothes provided for by the government even if the parents are billionaires?

Or do you just meant he children of welfare claimants? Why? If a child is a public good and society should pay for them, that is every child-Bertie the billionaire's son and Walter the Welfare claimant son.

If a teenager ceases to be a public good, should the money doled out be paid back? Why not? They will have broken the agreement of every child being a public good.

What a long post I've written and I know you will disagree with all of it but that's because you don't think, other to say that welfare claimants should be given better treatment than others.

Pay your way. If you don't work, you shouldn't have an asset. Don't expect hand outs and don't feel that because you choose to live in an expensive area or have children that others should pay. They really don't have to you know and one day the worm will turn.

Just to answer one point:
If one is on welfare, the first thing to be knocked on the head is the choice of living in an expensive area.

By this reasoning, there would be no low-paid people living in London. They would all have to move out.
Then who would do the cleaning, stock the shop shelves, make the coffees, etc?

A functioning city in a functioning society needs to have people of all incomes and jobs living there, not commuting for hours and spending a massive proportion of their measly pay on commuting.

EuclidianGeometryFan · 28/11/2025 14:42

everyone has the choice to work to buy an asset even if that is a bedsit in Burnley. If you choose to live on benefits, then you choose -actually choose- not to buy an asset.
In the eyes of most people, that is perfectly reasonable. You should not expect to own a home if you do not work. You may choose to buy even the mst modest bedsit if you do work.
Is that unreasonable?

Perfectly reasonable.
I don't think we disagree on this.

SpaceRaccoon · 28/11/2025 14:44

It's interesting how posters are bending over backwards to justify the largesse, but when someone is on the same money that they're all earned themselves, suddenly they have the "broadest shoulders" and should have as much as possible taken off them to redistribute, regardless of what their own circumstances may look like.

EuclidianGeometryFan · 28/11/2025 14:44

The government should not be paying the accommodation bill of anyone who can work. Why would this be expected?

Because rents are high and wages low.
It is that simple.

Pickledpoppetpickle · 28/11/2025 14:46

If you choose to live on benefits, then you choose -actually choose- not to buy an asset.In the eyes of most people, that is perfectly reasonable. You should not expect to own a home if you do not work

But people on benefits do work. And plenty of them own their own homes. How hard is it?

EuclidianGeometryFan · 28/11/2025 14:48

Why do they have that right and I, a worker, don't.

You have the right to take a lower paid job and rent in an expensive area, then claim UC and have children.
You may find that UC doesn't pay all your rent, just part of it, and that bringing up kids on UC is actually quite a miserable lifestyle, especially if you are working and putting them in childcare.
Plus you will be foregoing the ability to get a mortgage, or build up savings over the UC limit.

OneBookTooMany · 28/11/2025 14:50

Thea doesn't sound as if she has a miserable lifestyle though does she?😂

I and millions like me have something called self respect and that's why we don't do what you suggest.

EuclidianGeometryFan · 28/11/2025 14:55

You say children are a public good and society should pay for them.
[...] Why? If a child is a public good and society should pay for them, that is every child -Bertie the billionaire's son and Walter the Welfare claimant son.

When child benefit was introduced (to replace child/family tax allowances), it was a substantial amount compared to costs, and was a universal benefit.
Yes, millionaire's children were recognised as a public good that the state should subsidise.
Of course, the millionaire paid more in tax than the family got in child benefit, but the principle of universal benefits was important.

If a teenager ceases to be a public good, should the money doled out be paid back? Why not? They will have broken the agreement of every child being a public good.
Not workable. Same as re-possessing a degree-loan that has 'gone to waste' on a criminal - you could only do this by sucking his brain out.

Crikeyalmighty · 28/11/2025 15:34

OneBookTooMany · 28/11/2025 14:36

Thanks @Crikeyalmighty and thanks for reading such a long post!

I'm posted out now, so see you on an other thread sometime hopefully!

No problem, I may not always agree politically with someone on everything or them me, but I am open minded and I think far more collaborative working cross parties would be a good thing - get the best ideas out of everyone-that’s why I totally disagree with the political system we have - lol!! Even once in awhile I agree with Farage on something but equally will agree with greens or Lib Dem’s on something else - I think it comes from having grown up in a midlands mining town but live in Bath - I see things from lots of angles- the elderly care house thing though really pisses me off - ironically Ed Davey is originally from my home town and it’s one of his big issues too

BananaramaDefence · 28/11/2025 17:59

EuclidianGeometryFan · 28/11/2025 07:47

There is a very good case to be made for being able to write off childcare against tax. But a better solution would be state-owned childcare free to all.

I would not favour write-off against tax of private rent. I would favour social housing - if they can't build fast enough then buy back the ex-social housing from the private landlords.

Utopia I know, but I can dream.

This is exactly what should happen, especially when we have so many people on here saying "but that's for childcare" as if people earning £6k a month don't have the same expenses. I don't understand why people find it so hard to comprehend that even high earners have these expenses.

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KaleQueen · 28/11/2025 18:08

Peoplearebloodyidiots · 28/11/2025 14:22

'Real life'. I guess you are suggesting that my life is not real then 😥😥, oh how I despair it when those who refuse to be accountable for their choices play this card.

Okay so say your argument is correct and all of these people are actively making choices to be in this situation. It’s the children that are suffering. But that’s okay is it? Kids not being fed or clothed to a decent standard or worse because their parents made the ‘wrong choices’
I can tell by your posts that you have literally zero clue about how others live. I hope you never find yourself in that situation. Oh no, of course you won’t as you’ve made ‘all the right choices’ . It truly is astonishing to realise how many people live in utterly self centred and self righteous bubbles. Enjoy your evening.

FenceBooksCycle · 28/11/2025 18:33

@OneBookTooMany I'm curious about this utopian plan of yours. Do you envision a London in which there are no teachers in schools, no nurses in hospitals, no shop workers or waste collection operatives or any of the other ordinary jobs that pay less than £80,000 pa working anywhere in London? Or do you expect the schools and hospitals and shops of London to start paying these roles at £80,000pa so that people performing them in London can afford to live there? Or do you expect people earning £30,000pa in a London based job (which would be £24,200 after standard tax, ni and pension deductions) to pay the £5000-£8000 for the annual commuting cost into Central London from somewhere far enough away to be cheaper to live (plus the approx £4000pa extra per year per child for the additional hours of childcare they would need to cover a lengthy commute) to be paid out of that £24,200? Or perhaps you'd prefer that instead of expecting to be able to pay a reasonable rent for a reasonable home within reasonable reach of their employment, we should expect Favela-type slums to arise with tiny one-room corrugated iron shelters where all the family live and eat and sleep within the same 6ft x 6ft cell, sharing a single tap between 50 such families, that could be provided at a fraction of the cost of the homes that better-paid people can afford, somewhere not too far away from the centre of london for commuting purposes?

Personally I can see the benefit of forcing employers who want people to do jobs in an expensive city to pay their staff at sufficient rates to allow their staff a dignified level of affordable lifestyle, rather than paying a pittance and then the government topping up with benefits. However as the taxpayer is ultimately the source of the wages for the vast majority of these low-paid roles, I am not convinced there would be any savings.

But I'm genuinely curious about how you'd approach this. Different cities have tried these various approaches, in various ways, over the centuries.

Peoplearebloodyidiots · 28/11/2025 18:48

KaleQueen · 28/11/2025 18:08

Okay so say your argument is correct and all of these people are actively making choices to be in this situation. It’s the children that are suffering. But that’s okay is it? Kids not being fed or clothed to a decent standard or worse because their parents made the ‘wrong choices’
I can tell by your posts that you have literally zero clue about how others live. I hope you never find yourself in that situation. Oh no, of course you won’t as you’ve made ‘all the right choices’ . It truly is astonishing to realise how many people live in utterly self centred and self righteous bubbles. Enjoy your evening.

You’ve turned a simple point about shared responsibility into a full melodrama, and still avoided addressing the actual issue.

Questioning how a system is funded isn’t cruelty, it’s basic adult thinking.

I haven’t made “all the right choices,” but I’m accountable for them, hopefully you will find that less astonishing. That’s the difference. And you haven't explained how anyone is supposed to trust that extra funding will reach the children who genuinely need it. I wonder how "real life" works in that respect.

OmNomShiva · 28/11/2025 18:53

This mother is raising 4 children who will one day pay our pensions and care costs.

She is working, but capitalism dictates that it won’t pay her a living wage, and the state needs to step in.

A massive hike in wages - truly fair pay - like they have in proper, developed non-feudal countries - which take care of their citizens - would bring far more into work. The argument here is not for stopping or reducing benefits, it’s for increasing pay.

CheeseIsMyIdol · 28/11/2025 18:57

OmNomShiva · 28/11/2025 18:53

This mother is raising 4 children who will one day pay our pensions and care costs.

She is working, but capitalism dictates that it won’t pay her a living wage, and the state needs to step in.

A massive hike in wages - truly fair pay - like they have in proper, developed non-feudal countries - which take care of their citizens - would bring far more into work. The argument here is not for stopping or reducing benefits, it’s for increasing pay.

The odds of all, if any, of her kids being net contributors or "paying our pensions" are very slim.

UserFront242 · 28/11/2025 19:00

CheeseIsMyIdol · 28/11/2025 18:57

The odds of all, if any, of her kids being net contributors or "paying our pensions" are very slim.

Why do you say that? The mum is working full time. Why do you think her kids wont go on to also work?
Yes, they might not earn enough to be net contributors, but the people who do the lower paid jobs are essential for society to run smoothly.

Ihatetomatoes · 28/11/2025 19:01

UserFront242 · 28/11/2025 00:01

Why do we need another thread demonising a single mum who works full time, and is on UC top ups?
What are you hoping to achieve here? Give your head a wobble.

Says she unemployed. However, how much is going to a landlord?

"Claire-Marie Bray, 27, unemployed, Nuneaton: Mum-of-four Claire-Marie and her partner Kieran receive Universal Credit and have struggled to make ends meet with £200 a month for her family of six with another child on the way. Labour's scrapping of the child benefit cap from April next year means "absolutely the world" for Claire-Marie's family who top up food shops with visits to the food bank."

Shadowdax16 · 28/11/2025 19:03

People really just need to stop having kids they can’t afford. Contraception exists.

Ihatetomatoes · 28/11/2025 19:03

Ihatetomatoes · 28/11/2025 19:01

Says she unemployed. However, how much is going to a landlord?

"Claire-Marie Bray, 27, unemployed, Nuneaton: Mum-of-four Claire-Marie and her partner Kieran receive Universal Credit and have struggled to make ends meet with £200 a month for her family of six with another child on the way. Labour's scrapping of the child benefit cap from April next year means "absolutely the world" for Claire-Marie's family who top up food shops with visits to the food bank."

My mistake, they talk about more than one person.

The thread one is

"In a good month when UC gives full entitlement, Thea has a total of £6,142.00, from £2,800 in take-home pay and £3,342 in universal credit plus child benefit. Her monthly expenses such as childcare, rent, council tax, energy and food etc are usually around £6000. She says: "So it’s living very much on the edge."

UserFront242 · 28/11/2025 19:04

Ihatetomatoes · 28/11/2025 19:01

Says she unemployed. However, how much is going to a landlord?

"Claire-Marie Bray, 27, unemployed, Nuneaton: Mum-of-four Claire-Marie and her partner Kieran receive Universal Credit and have struggled to make ends meet with £200 a month for her family of six with another child on the way. Labour's scrapping of the child benefit cap from April next year means "absolutely the world" for Claire-Marie's family who top up food shops with visits to the food bank."

No, this thread is about Thea, who is mentioned in the article further down.

Ihatetomatoes · 28/11/2025 19:04

UserFront242 · 28/11/2025 19:04

No, this thread is about Thea, who is mentioned in the article further down.

Yes, I noticed my mistake, I quoted the first person.

I'm assuming her childcare and rent is really high then????

CleverButScatty · 28/11/2025 19:05

UserFront242 · 28/11/2025 00:01

Why do we need another thread demonising a single mum who works full time, and is on UC top ups?
What are you hoping to achieve here? Give your head a wobble.

We should be demonising the fact that it could cost 6k a month to survive in some parts of the UK.
And no, people whose families, homes, jobs and support networks are in major cities shouldn't have to relocate to survive.

UserFront242 · 28/11/2025 19:05

Ihatetomatoes · 28/11/2025 19:04

Yes, I noticed my mistake, I quoted the first person.

I'm assuming her childcare and rent is really high then????

It is easy done. A few people have got them mixed up.

Yes, I would assume that is the case too. High childcare costs as she is working, and high rent due to where she lives.

UserFront242 · 28/11/2025 19:06

CleverButScatty · 28/11/2025 19:05

We should be demonising the fact that it could cost 6k a month to survive in some parts of the UK.
And no, people whose families, homes, jobs and support networks are in major cities shouldn't have to relocate to survive.

I totally agree with you.

Christmascarrotjumper · 28/11/2025 19:09

CleverButScatty · 28/11/2025 19:05

We should be demonising the fact that it could cost 6k a month to survive in some parts of the UK.
And no, people whose families, homes, jobs and support networks are in major cities shouldn't have to relocate to survive.

Why? Having 3 children with no planning isn't "surviving". London is expensive, but that doesn't mean salaries there should be enough to fund whatever lifestyle people fancy.

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