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(TW : discussion of Ruth Perry's suicide) To feel uncomfortable with the way Ruth Perry's death was described as 'the fault' of Ofsted?

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Carla786 · 26/11/2025 20:42

From the evidence, it's clear that the Ofsted inspector behaved abominably and the whole organisation needs a thorough overhaul.

However, I was reading a recent thread on the Caroline Flack documentary and for all the differences, one thing that reporting of Flack's suicide has shared is that it has often explicitly laid blame for a suicide on someone else.

In Flack's case, the media have been blamed for her suicide. In Perry's case, the inquest explicitly blamed Ofsted, as did some media.

This makes me uncomfortable...maybe it's wrong of me to feel this way, but I think of the GC threads that originally drew me to MN. Threads on the reporting of suicides of trans teenagers often rightly pointed out the danger of media implying that external people/forces caused a suicide, noting that it contradicts guidelines that the Samaritans (among others) have for good reason.

Perry was an adult, but these guidelines aren't just for teenagers. I don't want to downplay the terrible way she was treated by Ofsted. But I just feel very uncomfortable about the implications of media and then the official inquest explicitly implicating Ofsted in her suicide.

Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable about this?

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Hotflushesandchilblains · 26/11/2025 23:02

Carla786 · 26/11/2025 22:33

Why did it change? That's horrible. I suppose the nice people like your colleague got worn down then & left, leaving aggressive people who want to put others down.

What kind of coroners' reports? In this case I'm not exactly sure if I disagree or not, but I think reporting it like that is dangerous for the reasons I said up thread.

It was someone who came to see me for therapy for a deep depression - he had been a teacher, and head, then went to OFSTED because he wanted to help others. He said he had originally been in a role that was about sharing good practice and innovation and which was mostly supportive but which became about nit picking, box ticking and finding fault. He felt like he lost his lifes work and had become suicidal.

I have seen services blamed for the suicide of people who had never shown or reported any suicidal thoughts or feelings while in treatment. Once someone like this killed themself months and months after the end of treatment which they said had been helpful. Dont get me wrong - anyone taking their own life is a tragedy and investigation of this needs to be treated with utmost seriousness. But no one can foresee the future or read minds, and in that case, the coroner said the service had some blame for the suicide which I really could not see the grounds for. Sometimes coroners make attributions and statements which are unreasonable. And no one has the power to challenge them.

FrippEnos · 26/11/2025 23:06

https://archive.ph/H5xbm#selection-1461.0-1461.18

The problem with this piece is that it takes the line of "OFSTED was the cause of", where the coroner said contributed to.

He seems to very much support OFSTED in the form that it was and doesn't recognise that it is not fit for purpose.

He also claims that it is impartial and it hasn't been that for many years.

Carla786 · 26/11/2025 23:07

Shinyandnew1 · 26/11/2025 21:55

The head of my old school became a commentator on education after retirement and she also mentioned that the higher a teacher moves up, the more management they have to do, and the less time they have for what they actually wanted to do : teach. This needs to be improved....

Well, it isn't. Years ago, the 'upper pay scale' was devised to pay experienced teachers more money in order to keep them in the classroom, rather than them having to move into management roles which moved them out of actual teaching but was the only way to get a pay rise.

Now, there are thousands and thousands of UPS teachers across the country who are being sacked, bullied, forced out, placed on support plans or capability, signing NDAs because they are suddenly deemed to be failing teachers. This is because school budgets are so tight, heads would rather (or are forced to) hire cheap new teachers instead.

Older/expensive teachers are on the way out (if there are many left at all!) particularly in small primaries.

That's awful, I didn't know about this...

Why are teachers treated so badly? My grandmother was one up until 1992 and she was never treated this way. Where has thus culture of contempt come from?

I can't help wondering if there's a misogynist element, partly. One report did mention a 'macho culture' at Ofsted.

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Carla786 · 26/11/2025 23:08

FrippEnos · 26/11/2025 22:58

interesting how you have changed

"academies are not required to go by the normal standards or pay and conditions of the burgundy book"

to "pay adequately"

When the terms and conditions of the burgundy book are so much more than pay.

I didn't mean to change it, I meant to implicitly include all you'd mentioned. I apologise for not making that clear.

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noblegiraffe · 26/11/2025 23:12

Where has thus culture of contempt come from?

Step forward Michael Gove.

hopspot · 26/11/2025 23:21

MintDog · 26/11/2025 21:13

This may be an unpopular viewpoint but...

Half the problem is that the vast majority of headteachers have only ever been teachers. Went to school, went to college, got a PCGE, became a teacher, became a Head (maybe with a few other steps along the way!)

I went into teaching late - in my 40's, after a very successful (and stressful) career at senior UK level retail.

I was never ever stressed out by Ofsted. Not once did I have an issue them coming in, being observed, being critiqued etc. I actually wiped the floor with one particular obnoxious Ofsted man when he said he would have given me Outstanding except for x, y, z - well, what would YOU have done diffferently,..he didn't know. Absolute prat.

The point I'm making, because they haven't worked anywhere else, they place a lot of importance on these visits internally. Not saying they're not important, but if you're doing your job probably, anyone should be able to walk in at ANY TIME UNANNOUNCED and you'd pass with flying colours. They are not a life and death decider for anyone , or they shouldn't be.

There's a lot of Head teachers who have amazing skills with children and teaching but are way out of their depth in management positions - and the training in schools is frankly shite.

So no , I don't think ofsted should be to blame 100%. Do I believe they're a waste of space though - absolutely! Just let teachers teach. Maybe let managers manage?

You’re missing the point.

I’m a brilliant, experienced teacher. I’m confident in my practice. Anyone can come in at any time and see me do my thing.

What makes ofsted so stressful is that they could potentially come in, judge you to be rubbish based on some arbitrary judgement based on children who are human too and then tell you you’re rubbish. They then tell the rest of the staff you’re rubbish and the parents and community too.

They also expect so much for nothing. Let’s take all your support staff as you can’t afford to pay them anymore then berate you for not doing constant interventions. You’re failing the children didn’t you know? Just work a bit harder.

So much that we are judged on is far beyond our control.

FrippEnos · 26/11/2025 23:24

Carla786 · 26/11/2025 23:07

That's awful, I didn't know about this...

Why are teachers treated so badly? My grandmother was one up until 1992 and she was never treated this way. Where has thus culture of contempt come from?

I can't help wondering if there's a misogynist element, partly. One report did mention a 'macho culture' at Ofsted.

Where do you want to start.

Various governments saying that teachers are work shy, left wing, unionised slackers (the blob)
Various governments undermining teachers and education
Various governments using education as a political football
The MSM undermining schools.
Social media
The removal of schools being able to discipline pupils (not corporal punishment and sanction)
Soft parenting
Micheal Gove.
Piss poor Education ministers that have no idea what they are doing and changing things every year without allowing things to settle.
League tables.
Progress 8
The removal of vocational subjects and replacing them with academic variants (see that twat gove)
Older Headteachers leaving and fast tracked young heads moving in.
the super heads
Academies.

To name a few things

Carla786 · 26/11/2025 23:26

noblegiraffe · 26/11/2025 23:02

I don't think you understand the consequences of an Inadequate rating if you think the inspector not being kind was the main issue.

The school is then forcibly taken over by an academy trust that the school will have no say in. The original school is gone.

Sorry, I should have also mentioned that, that would clearly have been at the forefront...

As you've said, the whole system of no support allowed while waiting, no help in fixing issues identified, forcible conversion to academies even for errors like Perry's is completely wrong..

The bullying inspector would have been an extra layer of pain

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justgottadoit · 26/11/2025 23:43

Lemonsugarpancakes · 26/11/2025 21:13

I’m not familiar with this story but have spent a lot of time thinking about suicide since H died by suicide years ago now. I spent an awful lot of time feeling guilty and sorting through observations of his close relationships and things I felt weren’t right within them and could have contributed to his state of mind.

But ultimately suicide is an individual choice and is based on very dodgy thinking about oneself and dodgy attachments to the wrong things in life.
eg if you feel your sense of worth, purpose etc is attached to your job, house, family, friends etc, you’ll feel horrendous when you lose those things.

If you’re strong in your sense of self as worthy in your own right, just for existing, or if you grow through losses to build that strong sense of self, you won’t take your life.

So IMO there’s always much deeper fundamental reasons or hiccups in emotional development (probably usually in early childhood, outside of conscious awareness) that form the foundation for suicide or an inability to grow through loss later in life.

I lost my DH to suicide too and I completely agree with this. In fact I would go as far to say, no-one is to blame for another person’s suicide (and I spent a lot of time with a counsellor working this through after it happened).

Mrsnothingthanks · 27/11/2025 00:11

Ofsted was absolutely a part of the cause of her suicide. I left teaching after 20 years' in last year and it wasn't until I left that I realised how damaging it was to my MH. And I was only a class teacher - not even in management (thank goodness).

Carla786 · 27/11/2025 00:18

FrippEnos · 26/11/2025 23:06

https://archive.ph/H5xbm#selection-1461.0-1461.18

The problem with this piece is that it takes the line of "OFSTED was the cause of", where the coroner said contributed to.

He seems to very much support OFSTED in the form that it was and doesn't recognise that it is not fit for purpose.

He also claims that it is impartial and it hasn't been that for many years.

Yes,,I was sceptical of some of it...I mean,does Daniel Finkelstein have any special expertise in this area?

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Imgladyoudid · 27/11/2025 03:06

A huge problem in teaching is headteachers.

They are answerable to no one but OFSTED and while there are many decent ones, a bullying head teacher can destroy you and there’s not a thing you can do about it. Unless something comes to light such as maladministration or other misconduct it can go on for years unchecked. Teachers have ended their lives over this and yet nothing is done.

It’s that line between ‘you are accountable’ and ‘you are still a human being.’ Sometimes, it isn’t an easy line to draw if self worth is intrinsically linked to your work.

weisatted · 27/11/2025 07:12

This is why the school was given an inadequate safeguarding rating.

Leaders have a weak understanding of safeguarding requirements and procedures.
They have not exercised sufficient leadership or oversight of this important work. As
a result, records of safeguarding concerns and the tracking of subsequent actions
are poor. Leaders have not ensured that all required employment checks are
complete for some staff employed at the school. These weaknesses pose potential
risks to pupils.
Some staff have not had the necessary training to be able to record concerns
accurately using the school’s online system.

This is not about a minor administrative issue. Very few schools get given inadequate for safeguarding, it's not handed out lightly.

It is written in Ofsted but what it means is:

At least one person working at the school didn't have a DBS - and probably more than one - so might have committed crimes against children for all the school knew.

The school leaders didn't understand the processes they were meant to follow to keep children safe - not just Ruth Perry but other senior leaders as well

When a concern about a child was spotted and action taken, it wasn't fully recorded - you might say "that's just paperwork" but if you read any serious case review about a child, like Sara Sharif, one of the failings is always that concerns weren't recorded and so the full picture wasn't apparent.

I'm sure Ofsted was a factor and the process should be better and kinder but it is not right at all to claim that the school was pulled up on something minor here

Imgladyoudid · 27/11/2025 07:31

That is the main thing which makes me very uncomfortable about it, @weisatted ; remembering Soham as perhaps the most extreme example of this.

weisatted · 27/11/2025 07:44

Imgladyoudid · 27/11/2025 07:31

That is the main thing which makes me very uncomfortable about it, @weisatted ; remembering Soham as perhaps the most extreme example of this.

Indeed. And it doesn't sound like what the inspector found was that this was some kind of one off human error, it was a culture of senior leaders not prioritising safeguarding.

I am a safeguarding governor and this could not happen at our school - the school safeguarding lead does the recruitment checks, the head checks as well and I do a spot check on the whole staff records once a month. This school sounds like it did none of that

Imgladyoudid · 27/11/2025 07:47

I think it’s more common than people think. I was honestly so shocked when I joined that school and it transpired the most basic checks hadn’t been done; they didn’t check I was who I said I was and they didn’t do a DBS. I could literally have been anybody.

noblegiraffe · 27/11/2025 09:00

weisatted · 27/11/2025 07:44

Indeed. And it doesn't sound like what the inspector found was that this was some kind of one off human error, it was a culture of senior leaders not prioritising safeguarding.

I am a safeguarding governor and this could not happen at our school - the school safeguarding lead does the recruitment checks, the head checks as well and I do a spot check on the whole staff records once a month. This school sounds like it did none of that

Yes, schools should be hot on safeguarding. Yes, it was right that Ruth Perry’s school was picked up on inadequate processes.

What also needs to be recognised is that Ruth Perry’s death was also a safeguarding failure. If someone kills themself after a work audit and the coroner finds that the practices surrounding that work audit contributed to her death, not only that but people had been trying to raise the alarm about the brutality of the process for years, then that is a huge safeguarding failure. The government has a duty of care to its employees just as schools have a duty of care to its students,

They failed in that duty and it cannot simply be hidden or ignored because of Samaritan guidelines. That would be another failure of safeguarding. They need to act to prevent future deaths.

weisatted · 27/11/2025 09:07

noblegiraffe · 27/11/2025 09:00

Yes, schools should be hot on safeguarding. Yes, it was right that Ruth Perry’s school was picked up on inadequate processes.

What also needs to be recognised is that Ruth Perry’s death was also a safeguarding failure. If someone kills themself after a work audit and the coroner finds that the practices surrounding that work audit contributed to her death, not only that but people had been trying to raise the alarm about the brutality of the process for years, then that is a huge safeguarding failure. The government has a duty of care to its employees just as schools have a duty of care to its students,

They failed in that duty and it cannot simply be hidden or ignored because of Samaritan guidelines. That would be another failure of safeguarding. They need to act to prevent future deaths.

I don't disagree. But many people on this thread have dismissed the safeguarding failures at that school as "trivial paperwork" and I feel quite strongly that we don't do that.

Both things can be true - Ruth Perry and her SLT can have put the children at the school at risk and Ruth Perry can have not received sufficient support

Brefugee · 27/11/2025 11:03

Carla786 · 26/11/2025 22:31

The Samaritans guidelines say that suicide rarely has a single cause, and that focus on one thing as the cause can have a negative effect on suicidal people who read this kind of reporting.

I've linked to the guidelines upthread.

so what do you think the words "contributed to" mean?

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