To think there are more meaningful ways to use your wedding footage than uploading it all to a social media app that might not even exist in 10 years?

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We spend so much time and money capturing weddings - the outfits, the speeches, the quiet glances, the chaotic dancing, but then most of it ends up filtered, captioned and cropped into a social media post… then disappears into a scroll. I’m not anti-posting but sometimes I wonder if we’re missing the point.

There are so many rich, creative ways to preserve that footage - make a short film, print a photo book, record audio reflections, write a letter to your future self, make an anniversary reel you actually rewatch. Things that grow with you, not just please the algorithm.

AIBU to think it’s a bit sad that something as meaningful as a wedding ends up flattened into a carousel of likes on an app that could vanish and with it, the meaning?

I assume most people don't just post their wedding stuff to SM and they also do the things you deem as more meaningful.

Why are you assuming people only do one thing with their photos? When you post a picture to social media, the original isn't destroyed, you still have it!

You can both post on social media, and do all of the things you suggest.

I’m not saying people lose their original photos or only do one thing. I just meant that a lot of energy seems to go into the posting rather than into creating something meaningful for themselves long-term. My point was more about intention than about losing files.

Clearly them sharing their videos and photos on SM is meaningful to them though.

Do you think people throw them in the bin after posting them??

I don't understand what you mean ? Somebody shares photos and videos of their wedding day and you don't think it is meaningful? It is their own SM though and if it is FB it will be in their memories and instagram it will also be saved, my dd wedding was 3 years ago the snippets of the day comes up In my memories online, but I have a physical wedding album as do they, they also have a memory stick that they shared with others, most B&G don't just rely on SM for their memories

My wedding was 30odd years ago we have a wedding video that we don't even know where it is or have anything to play it on.

I don't think it's any less meaningful than putting them in an album and leaving them to get dusty on a shelf.

To be honest, the only time I look at our wedding photos (it was pre-internet) is when we've moved house.

We've been married 28 years. The actual wedding ceased to be the most important day of our lives together a while ago. It's nice to have the pictures, and will be nice if either of us gets to the point where we can't remember it to have those photos, but I don't really get the need to have done something 'meaningful' with the pictures.

The meaningful bit of our wedding isn't in the photos that were taken, or the video my BIL took that we've never even watched. It's the bit that's there every day of our lives together.

But you're assuming they don't do anything else,assuming it's not meaningful to them, assuming there's no back ups, and most importantly, assuming that everybody thinks and should think like you

I think what people do with their wedding footage is their own business.

I've made a video book of mine.mthe official videos and all the clips people have sent me.
All the photos are printed in Albums