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CherryBakewell95 · 26/11/2025 14:30

My DD (9) has autism and attends a special needs school.

The class she is in this year is quite challenging in terms of the other children and their behaviours.

There is one particular child that sounds particularly challenging. My issue with it, is that she keeps targeting my DD and hitting her in the face. It’s happened 3 times now in the last 2 weeks. The teacher has stated that DD hasn’t been doing anything wrong and it has been unprovoked every single time.

It’s getting to the point where enough is enough. I don’t want my DD being scared to even breathe wrong in school incase she gets hit for it, and clearly the school aren’t dealing with it in a good enough way for it to keep happening.

How do I deal with this?

I have 3 options in mind - tell DD to hit her back and see if she wants to continue targeting her again after that (obviously I don’t want DD to be violent but sometimes in situations like that it’s the only way the physical assaults stop when they know they’re not going to get away with it 🤷‍♀️). Tell the school I don’t want them in the same class. Refuse to send DD into school until the other child’s behaviour is properly dealt with.

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NuffSaidSam · 26/11/2025 14:37

Ask the school for a meeting (class teacher and head teacher) and ask to see what procedures they've got in place to protect your DD. If you don't think it's enough ask them to also do what you think is needed. If this isn't sufficient then I think asking for her to be moved to another class is reasonable.

Telling her to hit the other child or keeping her away from school are both bad ideas.

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