Christmas as a single mum

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My 8 year old DD said to me the other day that her dad cares more about birthdays than I do as he gets her more presents. I have a good job and earn around £3000 pm, I’m in the north west. It makes me feel like such a failure as obviously the same will happen at Christmas. By the time my bills have gone out/food etc/activities I just can’t do the things that I used to do when we were together.

Tell her Santa is leaving everything at her dads for her to open 😂

Some men do this to detract from the fact they've left the home/cheated/created a new family etc. It's a way to be Disney Dad despite all the issues they've caused. She won't see it in the same way when she is older and realises throwing money at problems doesn't make them go away. In the meantime let him spoil her, just make sure she keeps the majority of the tat at his for him to tidy.

My thoughts exactly. I know she’s your daughter but it’s a very rude and hurtful thing to say. My step daughter is 8 and probably does get more from her dad but would never say that to her mum.

You are horrible.

The child is only 8, and her parents barely split up for a year. That's a big change.
What's your excuse?

so she had ONE birthday since you separated? Give her a break It's hurtful to an adult but she's navigating your separation. It's not that deep, honestly.

Even with parents together, kids have the "favourite" parent of the day sometimes 😂

This is a good example to demonstrate that even adults say silly things! So I think OP can take note of this and let it go! From her DD.