I’ve ended up apologising even though I think my boyfriend has cheated

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I feel a bit like I’m going crazy. My boyfriend of two years started acting a little distant a month or two ago.
I then get a random message from a girl on social media saying she’s been dating my boyfriend after meeting him on a dating app and has been out with him in real life on dates.
I got a friend to look on a dating site she was on and sure enough she found him.
I called him out on it, asked him about it. He lost it at me, told me I must be on a dating site if I saw him on there. Told me I must be speaking to other guys. Which I rationally explained was ridiculous. He then accused me of acting weirdly lately, said “do you think it’s time we end this now as you’re acting so weird!” And then made me feel bad for asking and then I ended up apologising even though im still absolutely certain he’s cheating.
Just need clarification that it’s not me “acting weird” and he is in fact turning this round on me?

YABU to yourself. Break up with him.

You are being unreasonable for having any sort of conversation with him, ever again. Block him. Move on.

Gaslighting. Dump his ass.

Save yourself the hassle and just end it.

Honestly OP. Why on earth did you apologise to him?
He gave you a classic demonstration of Darvo.
He is a cheat.

What he is doing is called DARVO https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO

Not only is he a cheat but is a nasty, manipulative, victim-blaming cheat. I hope you are ending the relationship?

He's making you doubt yourself, blaming you for how he is, get out of that relationship, and don't look back

YABU to have not broken up on the spot when your friend showed you the evidence - which I presume she did??

Yep. Absolutely textbook gaslighting DARVO ftom
a cheat who’s been caught bang to rights.

YABU for apologising to the lying cheating twat and if you stay with him after this

He’s now your ex boyfriend, surely ?
YANBU. He’s gaslighting you.
Block him.

This is a case of dump him immediately and don't look back...consider it your escape route out

As PP’s are all saying, get the hell rid of him and now.

Consider this a lucky break. Think of it like the rubbish taking itself out.

Wake up and smell the coffee.
Dump him and dont look back. 🚩🚩
Your relationship should be a pleasure, fun times nice to one another.
Clearly yours is not.
Get out now before you get in deeper.

Yabu for being so stupid to apologise and not dump him.

So he is a cheat, is dishonest and lies, and is then a nasty bully who blames you.

Not hard to work out.

Get him in the bin.

He then accused me of acting weirdly lately, said “do you think it’s time we end this now as you’re acting so weird!

He's just trying to dump you without making himself look like the bad guy. Why on earth didn't you just tell him to fuck off? He's cheating on you.

Get rid of this freak

He's been caught and he's gaslighting you. Probably not for the first time.

You don't need to explain anything to him. Dump him.

Are you ok, genuinely? Because if you were this wouldn’t even be a question. Your boyfriend is on dating sites you know this. He’s cheating on you. You know this. He’s not just randomly cheating he’s proactively looking to meet someone else and doing so. He wants to end it. And your question is are you being weird.

yes, yes you are, you apologised and seem to be accepting of his being with other women, is he abusive to you past this, is this why you’re asking.

hou need to end it and maybe seek counselling for your self esteem.

What an absolute dickhead. Dump him OP!

Are you still with this fool.
Dump him now.

Another one, pick up yourself respect on the way out