to have a crush on nursery worker

[okaysooo]

Okay, it's not exactly a crush (i.e. not strong feelings etc) but I really like him as a person. He is so kind, calm, incredible with kids. Just genuinely sweet, and has an energetic presence. I remember being very (platonically) drawn to his energy from the first time I met him, as he was so friendly

There's been absolutely no flirting as we have only spoken at the nursery. We have only smiled at each other (lol) and because I felt he was seeking it out at times - which I could be wrong about - I then saw an opportunity recently when we were alone, and after the usual "have a nice weekend", I asked him about his weekend plans. We had a long conversation where we asked each other quite a lot of questions and I feel he was interested in learning about me; asked me whereabouts I live, where I'm moving to, what I do for work etc etc. Lots of eye contact, didn't cut conversation when other people came in and out. Friendly conversation. But I feel like you wouldn't ask someone a lot of questions if you weren't interested in them? Like, I wouldn't ask these questions to any other nursery worker. But again, I'm not gonna read into anything because it could quite literally be nothing, or (in my world lol) could be he is trying to be respectful

FYI he is 30, I am 27, he knows I am a single mum and that I take care of my son full-time with help from parents. He is not in my son's room but they do rotate throughout the day and all play together outside etc. I have, for example, dropped son off to him many mornings, where I know they will then separate after a bit

I just feel like FUCK he is someone I'd just LOVE to get to know on a deeper level, has so many qualities I am looking for in a long-term partner and unlike anyone I've ever dated. But realistically, I could never find out if this could turn into anything, could I?

Eh yanbu imo x

Oh really?? I thought things like this were deeply frowned upon. Like it would be in their contracts to not get involved with a parent or something? 😅

I can see lots of drawbacks to dating a worker at your son's nursery. Honestly lots.

I'm going through a period of saying Fuck it 😅

In all seriousness, how much longer will your son be there, given that its nursery? Maybe you could strike up a real friendship and then pounce come the summer holidays take it further if he wants?

I'd maybe wait until your son is off to Reception.

Having worked in nurseries, getting involved with a parent would be a huge no.

Thats what I was thinking... However, in my country, kids start school when they're 6, which for my son is 3 years away sadly

Id think YABU while your son is still at the nursery. Firstly from a job standpoint for him, and second what if it goes sour for you? Having to go and drop your son off and your psycho ex works there?

Its a big no from me. Dont sh*t where you eat.

Also a good point…

He just seems so sweet, I can’t help but wonder what if

Just let it be and see where it goes.

Those conversations are had with every parent. Just so you know.

I’m a senior in a nursery! I personally wouldn’t get involved with a parent due to the professionalism of it all- not to say he’s acting unprofessionally as doesn’t sound like he is, but it’s over stepping that line I guess.

In all honesty that sounds like the sort of conversation i’d have with any of the parents at nursery really! but that’s not to say you dont have a vibe with them!

Yeah and personally Id see it as a red flag that he was deliberately doing that but that’s probably me being overly negative.

Sorry but seen this before, I mean be honest, what's more attractive than a chap whose great with kids? Caring, empathetic, commutative...

...he's doing his job. He's supposed to be all of those while you and your child are on the premises.

Don't do it, it'll be awkward for all involved.

Thanks for commenting! Can I ask, for what reason specifically is it a no go - would you risk losing your job or it’s frowned upon?

Swear I’m not trying to find loopholes just genuinely curious about his position 😂

Would love a few more comments to see if the general consensus is that it's an absolute no go

Sounds like there’s some chemistry going on for sure. No rush, let things move slowly and maybe up things as your son leaves. I bet you look bloody gorgeous at drop off going fwd! ☺️

Get a grip and grow up. This is your child’s nursery/school setting. Why on earth would you even mess with that?

I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. One of my friends left her husband for a woman who worked at her kid’s nursery! They’re still together five years later, and the nursery manager/owners didn’t have a problem with them dating. Obvs if things go wrong you’d have to move nurseries, so you need to consider that

That's very interesting. Did the woman work directly with your friend's child?

Good for them btw 🎉