Complicated or not?

[Creamcakeries]

If someone told you the following scenario would you say
YABU it's not complicated
YANBU it is complicated
The scenario...Rosie and Jim are married. Jim said that he wants them to separate then changes his mind. Changes it back to wanting to seperate and then finally changes it back to stay. Rosie loses trust in Jim. She decides that she will plan to leave him. A new colleague, a female, asks Rosie her relationship status. Is it reasonable for Rosie to say the situation is complicated or not?

Rosie should say I’m married but not for much longer

I'm slightly on the fence. Legally, Rosie is married, but emotionally, I can see why she doesn't feel like she is.

For the sake of a passing conversation with a new colleague she would have been better saying she is married, and then saying she is separated when they separate.

I don't know any adult that would say its complicated about their relationship, when they are in one (albeit planning to leave).

Its not unreasonable, just a bit childish/possibly trauma dumping depending on how the rest of the conversation went.

"Are you in a relationship?"

"I'm married"

What more needs to be said considering this is a new colleague and not even a friend?

"It's complicated", sounds like Rosie fancies the new colleague.

To a random person you don't want to explain your life to i think saying its complicated is a fair answer.

Rosie wouldn't be unreasonable but it could invite further unwanted questions and - if new colleague turns out to be a gossip - rumours spreading around the office. I think it's probably better just to say that she is married (the truth) until such time as things change and Rosie wants to share further information.

I think if you don't want to explain then 'I'm married' is the least interesting answer.

'It's complicated' will cause an interest.

It is complicated.

i probably wouldn’t say it to a coworker though. Is Rosie a friend or just a co worker

Of course the relationship is complicated, but there is no need for a new colleague to know any of that.

Her status isn’t complicated. She’s married. When (if) she leaves, she will be separated.

I don’t see anything complicated. Rosie is married. if she decides she’s had enough she can end the marriage but untiI then she is married. What more is there to say to a new colleague?

To me saying its complicated is basically saying I don't want to talk about it as if someone mentioned there husband I would likely ask more questions e.g about his job or if you have any holidays planned together this year etc