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To go away for a night without DS2

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keeptryjng · 24/11/2025 15:31

Thankyou so much for reading in advance....

Some background - my partner and I have a 1 year old and I also have a 7 year old from my last relationship - that I share joint custody with my ex- my partner wants to get away to the countryside for a night (tomorrow night) (originally it was to see a house we might buy) but looking like he doesn't want to see it now and just wants to get away from town.. only problem is this means going without DS1 (7 year old) and the morning he would usually be coming to me to take him to school he will have to have our neighbours take him to school.

I feel bad and uncomfortable about this - I don't like doing family things without DS2 - he's also going through some intense separation anxiety with his dad atm so I'm extra sensitive to it..

I could kind of rationalise it before when I thought it was to go and see a house where the four of us can go on weekends... but not it's just a trip away I feel really weird about it... my partner is excited because he planned to see his friends who live there but i just don't want my 7 year old to know we went on a trip without him... AIBU?

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NovemberRedHolly · 24/11/2025 15:33

I wouldn’t be going if it meant he was left with neighbours.

Dartmoorcheffy · 24/11/2025 15:35

Assuming hes staying with his dad then why do the neighbours need to take him to school?

Reppytrieshard · 24/11/2025 15:36

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keeptryjng · 24/11/2025 15:50

@Dartmoorcheffy because his dad has
to get to work early so has to drop him at 8.. - he could go to breakfast club at school but he hates it....

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 24/11/2025 16:47

I'm confused girl

Who are you leaving behind? Ds1 or 2? It seems to change in the op x

keeptryjng · 24/11/2025 19:25

Aaah so sorry I mean DS1 (the seven year old) x

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User79853257976 · 24/11/2025 19:36

Go some other time.

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