What would you do in this situation?

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I have left controlling partner of 10 years and moved into my own place. We need to sell the house so my money is still tied up. He has been controlling and emotionally abusive for years. He also has treated the dog badly and refuses to let me have her. He used a slip lead and will discipline her with this. He will pin her to the ground if she does something wrong and 2 weeks ago was trying to kick her as she had misbehaved. I can't stop worrying about the dog as he has no patience and worried he will take his anger out on her more now that I am gone. I am considering taking the dog next weekend when he isn't home but I know he will be fuming if I do this. AIBU? If I knew she was being treated well I wouldn't be considering it

Of course you should take the dog. Are you her registered owner, though?

We just taken in my DP’s dog that had been with his ex since they split, unfortunately she wouldn’t let him have the dog although she is incapable of looking after herself let alone a dog. His daughters brought the dog to us a few months ago due to worry about the dogs weight loss. The chip is in exes name however the police treat it as a civil matter as dogs are classed as property. We have had her at the door (told sternly to get off our property & never come back) and the police but the police left without any further action & confirmed it was a civil matter, the onus is on her to take us to court to prove ownership which she is not in a position to do. I’d take the dog & stand firm if police bother to come which is unlikely. We had support of a vet too who wrote a letter to the ex expressing concern & disappointment at the dogs health.

No that's why I also didn't think I could take her but I have had advice from a vet that they can sort that for me and they would prefer me to take her as we are concerned for her welfare. This person has witnessed him doing this to the dog and had said they would testify that

I would go and get the dog no way could I leave her

What a bastard - I hear so many stories like this, men abusing both their partners and pets.
Take the dog. Don't tell anyone, just go take her.

Yes I've decided I'm going to get her and just hope he is out at the time I am expecting

Well done for this decision- but please be safe. Take someone with you, let people know where you are going, and don’t downplay any weird shit that might happen around your new place afterwards- report report report. Good luck!

Stay safe.
Do you have any ideas what time he may be out -at work for example? Can you arrive a little earlier and watch him leave from a distance?

Take someone with you if possible just in case- or at least let people know when you are going to the house.

i’m so glad you’re taking the dog (saving it). I don’t think it should matter who paid for the dog in circumstances like this. My ex paid for our dog and was the registered owner on the microchip but I was able to change it- I can’t remember the process but it wasn’t too difficult.

if your ex is volatile, please do speak to women’s aid and non emergency police for advice- and communicate with friends and family. Don’t live in fear unsupported.

This was an awful thread to read