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ChersHandbag · 24/11/2025 05:47

Immediately after my divorce I got together with an old friend. It lasted about a year and was ok, but he was also a bit pushy and cold and we broke up, over a year ago.

He said he hoped we could still be friends and I agreed (there’s a whole social/ professional context around us). It seems the meaning of this is different for each of us though and while I meant I hoped we could get on if we turned up at the same thing, he has expected me to be on WhatsApp whenever he wants to chat, etc. He had a whole patch where he said he was having a breakdown and recently had been writing messages each evening that I haven’t answered. I’ve explained that I don’t want that politely many times but he hasn’t listened, and now I’ve blocked him.

Is that ok?

I’m worried it’ll make it even worse and he’ll somehow double down. I’m angry he’s making me feel so got at when he knows I live alone with my kids and suffered an abusive marriage before.

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Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 24/11/2025 05:53

Of course it’s ok. You can do as you choose. He isn’t right for you and you need to protect your peace. I’ve never needed to block anyone but would if necessary.

FateAmenableToChange · 24/11/2025 05:55

You don’t owe this man your emotional labour. And as he doesn’t seem to be getting the message blocking is entirely reasonable. It’s really hard after leaving abusive relationships not to end up in after slightly less bad one because by comparison it seems better.

Spend sometime now on healing, so many amazing resources & people out there to help now. And congratulations on asserting your boundaries with this - a very positive step.

INeedAnotherAlibi · 24/11/2025 05:58

Not unreasonable at all. You don’t have to be his emotional punching bag. Make sure you block him everywhere though - social media, phone, WhatsApp (separately) because he’ll look for any avenue to contact you.

jeaux90 · 24/11/2025 06:34

OP you are not a support human for this fragile man. Just block. JFC the entitlement of some of these men beggars belief, like they think women were put on the planet to be their personal cheerleaders.

ChersHandbag · 24/11/2025 11:41

ah thanks, wasn’t sure if I was being harsh

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