Arguing with husband all the time

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We have 2 young children and he started working shifts a few months ago. He works alot of weekends. I try and plan out the week ahead for when we both geth breaks. I work part time. So for example if we are both off a day during the week, i say he can get up with the children and get them ready and take the older one to school and toddler out for a while. He thinks i should be getting up too to help. On his night shifts and late shifts he can sleep for as long as he wants the next day so i feel he is getting break then. I have them at the weekend by myself which i find long and tiring at times. How do people work this out fairly. I feel like we are arguing when we should just be helping each other? I feel we are both tired.

This argument is playing out in households across the world. You need to talk to one another and draw up some kind of plan for you both to have time out.

I truly believe people don’t realise how tiring it is to be with small children 24/7 unless they have done it a lot themselves.

You have my sympathies.

If you haven’t worked shifts you don’t understand. He’s not having a break, he’s having the equivalent to your regular nights sleep.

@ItsInTheSingingOfAStreetCornerChoir not if he can sleep for 10 hours or get up after 8 hours and have 2 hours to himself? While i have taken the kids out for the day? And I have to get up at 5/6am when my kids wake.

Come home after he’s had 6-8 hours sleep then. You’re taking them out for the day but surely you can go home. What would you do if a child was poorly?