Hello all, first post on here. I'm reaching out in hope to gain more u derstanding wether it's just me being unreasonable or if im genuinely being treated like an outcast by my friend now that I have had my first baby in June. So long story short we have been friends for over 12 years, best friends in fsct. Always chatting always meeting up , my friend then moved away to a different town resulting in less frequent meet ups but we definitely still saw eachother at least 3 times a month and video calling every other day etc. Now. I have noticed her becoming distant when I reached 8 months in my pregnancy. Less conversation, hardly called . This friend may I also add always bragged about how she would become my baby's best auntie as we are such good friends etc. Today , it's now been 7 months since I have actually seen her. She barely talks to me, even though her circumstances have not changed, still works the same job, same boyfriend same home etc. Ive tried to ask about this but she evidently becomes annoyed and blames me for the lack of conversation and that it's just difficult to meet up nowadays due to "our lives. She has asked about my baby once since she's been born, hasn't met her at all. I feel so disappointed and also hurt by that. I keep seeing posts of her and her new mates out drinking and going to places together etc. Yet she claims she has not got the bus money anymore to come see me like she used to , baring I mind it's usually around £3 for the journey. She has now sent me a blunt voice message about how shes booked a room for herself and her two friends to stay out of town and for a night out to go ahead etc, saying im welcome to come but it is £50 for me to be able to stay , and also travel costs, I have to arrange for my baby to be looked after for the night and following day. My issue is, I've been struggling financially lately and she knows this, not only this, but I'm the only one that stays up with baby for night feeds etc. And baby' dad works alot so it just doesn't not work for me to up and leave for the night and day. I feel hurt by the idea that im being invited now after ive told her she hardly sees me, and it's to a plan that's already been arranged without me in the first place, I'm just now being added on at the end, feels like it's only cecause ive mentioned something. How can one not have £3 for a bus but afford a hotel stay for 3 friends and a night out clubbing ? . What do I even say to that invitation? Im lost as to what to even think anymore. I don't want this friendship if this is what it's become. But I also don't exactly want to be the bad guy in it all that im the one ti say I cut off contact and make it look like it's all my fault ?