I BROKE TWO PLATES

[koolkatxx]

Went to my friend’s today and honestly I think I need to be banned from other people’s homes for life.

First plate: we were snacking in the living room, I somehow managed to knock it off the coffee table. Smashed. I apologised about 50 times, cleaned it all up, offered to replace it. Friend told me to stop apologising and absolutely not to replace it. All fine.

Then an hour later… I somehow broke a different plate in the kitchen. I don’t even know how. It just slipped like my hands forgot how to function.

Her brother came in immediately, handed us the hoover without saying a single word, and walked out. I wanted the floor to swallow me. I felt like some kind of destructive toddler.

Friend kept saying “it’s fine, move on, don’t mention it again,” and even made me agree not to bring it up. But I STILL feel awful and like she must secretly be thinking I’m a complete liability.

AIBU to still feel mortified?
Or do normal adults just… break two plates in one day and move on with their lives?!

If I was your friend I'd laugh this off as one of those things. You could buy another plate as a goodwill gesture, but don't keep apologising or saying how mortified you are - that'll get irritating!

This. Chinasearch is very good & replacing them would be thoughtful & appropriate

I think the friend probably just wants to move on. People endlessly apologising does get a bit tiresome.

My brother fell off his chair into our Christmas tree which plunged into our Christmas dinner if it helps @koolkatxx .

Aw, don’t give yourself a hard time.

I'd be a bit gutted if someone broke my plates as they’re all nice ones and not cheap. But accidents happen and I’d not expect them to replace them!

reminds me of teenage SIL dropping a stack of bowls the first time she stayed with us and her bursting in tears. DH was going “oh my god, she’s going to be so upset, she loves her crockery!”

Yes I was upset but would never have got mad at SIL about it.

One of my friends once fell onto my coffee table at the end of a party (a little inebriated of course) and broke every single glass.

I agree. These things happen but I would replace as an apology.