end of friendship

[Mylittlegreycat]

I have had a friend for over 30 years. I was married (my husband has now died) and she a widow. We went shopping together had days away and the odd weeked. My husband didnt mind. We have done evening classes and other stuff. Some time ago she became disabled. I helped her in many ways even washing her hair at times. She would phone and say I need some company and I would go and sit with her for a while.
A few years ago she moved into an over 60 appartment, she was lonely and so I went every Sunday. After my husband died I was glad to do this as it passed the day.
After a while she made some friends in the appartments. After this she changed I became friends with one of her new friends I will call her susan but she seems to not want to include me with another friend who she seems to look up to.
Now Susan has told me the things she has been saying behind my back. That she has to put up with me going on sundays, and seems jealous as I have some savings, nowhere near what her husband left her (which she blew the lot) How I always copy everything she buys (untrue) and other nasty things.
I have decided now to stop visiting her. I did confront her about one thing she did but she says it wasnt. like that. AIBU

Do you trust Susan? Does your friend have form for talking behind peoples backs? If so, I wouldn't blame you for stopping your visits. It's a shame she's behaved this way, having had a good friend like you.

What a out Susan? Will you remain friends with her?

So what makes Susan more trustworthy than your friend?

I'd quantify somethings with the friend, like oh Susan said you weren't fond of me visiting, instead putting up with me so i'll step back, have a blessed day.

The reaction should tell you everything.

And walk away head held high.

Susan is wrong here because she should of not told you. Remember you haven't known Susan long OP! Tbh if you cant sort this out you need to cut Susan off to because she can't be trusted either.

Susan doesn't sound nice to be saying all of these things. I think I would give them both a wide berth.

I'd be telling your original friend about Susan's tittle tattling if it was me. See what happens.

I'd assume Susan was lying.

Unless your original.friend has form for bitching to you about other people. Does she?

How do you lnow Susan is telling the truth? I too, would sound out your original friend ans aee how she reacts.
May be she has moved on to new friends and is trying to cool the friendship rather than just coming out with it's run it's course.
Susan is a bitch for saying this stuff but then if it's true she might be a potential ally. But on the other hand she might want your friend to be exclusive to her and shoving in a wedge to stir up trouble to get you out off the way.

I'd be wary of other people saying she said things. I've had someone completely twist what I've said and throw in some lies.
I've never repeated to people what's been said to me, if someone has something negative to say about a friend of mine, I will defend my friend there and then but say no more of it. I do think people who go around with this he said she said have ulterior motives.

Susan has an agenda