To feel guilty

[Wiseplumant]

So I am 63 years old, I work 40 hours a week in quite a demanding , responsible, public facing job, where I have to make decisions and think on my feet. Otherwise I have a house to clean, shopping, spending time with family. I get two days off a week and am currently still in bed, scrolling and reading and drinking coffee .It's nearly 13.30 and I haven't done a single useful thing today. There is plenty to be done, life admin, online work training. I don't have any hobbies, but that's fine because I love being alone and reading. DP is out walking the dogs and I turned down the invite to go too, though I do my share of walking of walking them .There is a charity sale in our village hall this afternoon and I can't even be bothered going to that. I am not depressed , so aibu to feel this nagging guilt that I am wasting the day and should be doing something 'meaningful'?. This is a habit ( staying in bed) I have been doing for a few months now. I will get up eventually, but not just yet!

Relax and recharge. You owe no one nothing

I gave myself permission to have occasional lazy weekends a couple of years ago and liberating. I work hard and have 3teens. I’m not lazy overall but need to allow myself downtime. It’s important. Give yourself permission and remove the guilt.

Unless you are actively harming someone I think guilt is a waste of time. Who is being deprived by you chilling in bed?

I understand how you feel but you have nothing to feel guilty about. It's okay to have lazy days, we need them to recharge the batteries!

Listen to Morrissey's "Spent The Day In Bed" and enjoy it 😀

I've never had any time for Morrissey but have just read the lyrics to this and have to say it's brilliant. So true!

I used to feel guilty if I spent a couple of hours reading a book. If I told DH I was feeling guilty about doing nothing, his response was 'you are not doing nothing, you are reading a book, enjoy it's.

I have also spent today doing mostly nothing (usual daily chores but nothing that I "should" have been doing)
DH and I had breakfast in bed watching telly.
Sometimes that's what you need to do.

Uh I’m reading this from my bed! I’ve been downstairs most of the day but it’s been rainy all day and decided to come up here with the dog and one of the cats. We are all just cuddled up together listening to the rain. No guilt.

Once the housework I want to do is done, if I’m not going to the supermarket I chill most days. I started work at 17. I’m retired now. I had years of “having” to do stuff and see people I didn’t want to see. Now I do neither. I feel no guilt x

I hope your partner does his share of housework.

Your posts have made me feel better! I sometimes think it is so ingrained in us to be doing constructive things all the time that causes that niggling guilt, I just have to convince myself that it is ok to do 'nothing' and that my happy place is in bed with the dog and a book and my phone. DP is pretty good really, does his own washing, cooks sometimes, maintains my car and DIY ,and he doesn't put any pressure on me , it's just my own head that says I am wasting time, hopefully if I keep doing it I'll learn to chill without guilt.

Please don’t ever do online work training on your day off!!!!!!!