Posting here for traction. Im quite an anxious person snd i was diagnosed with aspergers in my teens so social stuff overwhelms me
1 of DHs brother has always had a problem with me. Since day 1 im not sure why. Was always making little comments about me trying to play it as a joke but they were putting me down etc. Then when I was pregnant with mine and DHs 2nd baby he tries to cause a massive argument said im weird and I copy him and his family? As our kids who are 6 months apart had the same coat (from Sainsbury's mind you) one time. Yep. DH didnt take the bait and flipped out on him told him to do one for being so odd. This then led to them not speaking for .months and DH brother not even congratulating him when our youngest was born. He doesnt even acknowledge her shes nearly 2 and when everyone's together hell acknowledge other kids but barley looks DDs way
I think its baffling to dislike a baby or have any sort of animosity towards them but he does and I can feel it. He speaks to ant other kids on that side even does address eldest
But I just dread gatherings on DH side now. I feel so awkward all together as I know.gim and I presume his wife dislike me. I raised it to dh but he said he didn't want another argument etc and I get ir I felt bad moaning that I can tell they dont like me when, when the pair of them weren't speaking and we had a newborn his mum and dad wouldn't stop badgering him about it
But I cant avoid it so I need to deal with it and not let my morning pre family gathering be filled with anxiety or my late afternoon filled with negative energy after going because I feel awkward
And another odd factors is DHs brother constantly tries to make a competition between kids. I wish hed stop as a very personal aspect for us is our eldest is being assessed soon for adhd and aspergers. So no he wont be like neurological kids if that diagnosis comes back. Please stop comparing when weve noticed since he was a baby he was slightly delayed in things
But anyway. Tips welcome please