Honestly, am I being an arse in not wanting these clothes?

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I’m not anti second hand at all but I’ve been given two big bags of clothes for my four year old ds and … I don’t like them. They are filled with jeans, football shirts, sports clothing like Nike and he just looks like a totally different child in them.

am I being a twat? Tell me honestly.

Depends if you've had a conversation beforehand saying yes please to a bag of free clothes, or if they've just been dumped on you. (If it's the latter yanbu.)

No objection to joggers. He normally wears joggers but I just don’t like actual tracksuit bottoms with Adidas logos. I also don’t like jeans because he can’t get them on and off easily and they just don’t really look all that nice on him to be honest.

I didn’t actually ask for them; I think she just thought she was being nice (and decluttering as well most probably!)

OP just pass them on. I find with kids clothes we all have our own particular tastes. I buy a lot of second hand but I’m fussy about certain brands and styles and fabrics. 13 year old DD was given a bag of stuff recently that we just added to the recycling pile.

Donate if you want.

I would have used them for nursery and park personally. I kept nice clothes for meals out etc. Whether they are wearing addidas hoodie or a knitted jumper with a dinosaur on the clothes get ruined.

It is nice to have them in little kid clothes. Soon enough they will be head to toe in black Nike or worse.

I actually think if he's 4 you should hang on to them. Won't he be at school soon? My ds1 was very aware of brands and fitting in from a young age and was keen to have nike trainers quite early, maybe not reception but soon after. Ds2 OTOH has only just copped on to berghaus and alpyrex and monterex now at 11. He marched me off to JD and it cost me £300!

Yeah, a bit. If you can afford to pass them on, fine. The rest of it? He's 4 and will have grown out of them by the time I've written this. Obviously you can choose what your child wears but these sound like muddy walk/playground/spaghetti bolognaise for dinner clothes.

Sometimes people ‘give’ you stuff and then want it back later to sell on eBay or similar. What I would do is check what she wants you to do when ‘you’ve finished’ with them. If it’s pass them onto charity, do that immediately 😉
Next time, refuse them politely from the off and be ready for it.

|'ve had similar. I've kept a few bits for painting/ crafting clothes (very useful) and donated the rest.

Some bits I didn't expect to want ended up coming in surprisingly useful when my daughter had to wear a green t shirt for sports day or spots for chidrens in need.

I’d sell the ones with logos and donate the rest; then buy what you want your son to wear.

There are mums and DC who'd love that stuff. Which doesn't make you a twat that you don't, but means it would be a massive shame for you to use them for things that will spoil them, under sufferance, when another family would be delighted and get pleasure from them. Tell your friend DS has loads so wouldn't get to wear them, and you don't want them wasted. So would she prefer them back to donate elsewhere, or should you pass them on.

My kids used to get through clothes like crazy so I'd probably keep some for the garden. But if you don't want them, just say so and give them back and they can pass them on to someone else.
It's not unreasonable.