to be a little cross with DH for losing DD2

[NigellaTheUndomesticGoddess]

AIBU or not? DH thinks i am.

DD2 is 10. likes to go out for a ride around on her bike or down the road to my mothers.
I'v been working nights. I got up at 2.30, asked where DD2 was. DH said - oh i think she's gone to the playground with friend 1. me - o,k, then.
20 minutes later I ask DH if he's given DD a time to be home by. - no he hasn't.
20 minutes later I start to wonder where she is. DH then says oh she said she might go to grannys.
I phone DDs mobile - no answer.
I walk down to my mothers - no DD, no mother.
Walk around to playground - no DD no friend.
I come home to ask DH exactly where DD said she'd be and what time she would be home. He doesn't know.He says she might have gone to friend 2s house - a bit further away (uninvited).
No answer at friend2s house.
By this point it is 4.30 and i am starting to feel a little concerned. Dh not worried - thinks she'll be home by teatime.
Drive to friend 2s house to find DD playing in their garden.
Friend 2s mother had asked her to phone but she forgot to, and she'd left her mobile inside.
DH not concerned in the slightest - thinks I'm being unreasonable to be trawling the streets looking for her.
I think he's a bit of a twunt for not asking where she'd be and when she'd be home.
Do i punish DD or DH?
AIBU to want to know where DD is?

Ice cold in Alex would be the temperature in our house if that happened, for both of them.

Ten is old enough to carry out a simple instruction, you are welcome to come and play. please call your parents and let them know where you are.

YANBU

Grrr at DH

I like the idea of giving DD freedom, but DH should understand that you parents need to know where/with whom and use time limits for peace of mind.

problem is i've been desperately encouraging D to be a bit more independent because she is so bloody clingy it drives me nuts - i don't want to go too mental - i will be pointing out tat she has a mobile for a reason and i want to know exactly where she is and what tiome she'll be back.
DH on the other hand thinks it is fine and normal to wander off for a few hours. bloody cueless idiot.

i would be mad at dd2 rather than dh.

at age 10, if she is old enough in your eyes to go out alone and with mobile, then she should be the one who takes that responsibility a bit moer seriously. dd1 (age 8) broke the rules of how far she is allowed to go the other week and ended up grounded for a week and is still on restricted wandering when playing out, as she keeps doing this sort of thing. she wandered too far on holiday, and had dh in a panic as he couldnt find her. she was meant to just go ahead and wait for him, but went too far and he had dd2+3 with him.

Think its DH re punishment, as he didn't give dd any instructions? YANBU by the way!

Don't think you're being unreasonable. My dh did the same with our ds (also aged 10).
Went out food shopping and left dh in charge. On way home saw ds and friend cycling along the road (fairly busy) ds on the road, friend on pavement.
Got home, asked dh where ds was going> Didn't know. Asked when he had told him to be back. No time given. Couldn't understand why I was concerned about this
Fortunatley ds has more sense than his dad and came home in time for tea. Was at friends house.

YANBU

I can't decide whose to blame though