AIBU to think it is okay to keep my home tidy without being called controlling?

[warrenettie]

My friend keeps telling me I am “too tidy” and that my place looks like I am expecting visitors at any moment. For context, I just like my home to feel calm and easy to move around in. I pick things up as I go, I put things back where they belong, and I cannot relax if the sofa is covered in toys and yesterday’s bowls.
The friend in question thinks homes should look “lived in” and that cleaning can wait until the weekend. I honestly do not care how she runs her house. I never comment. But every time she comes over she jokes that she feels like she needs to take her shoes off and whisper in case she “messes up my system.”
I find it annoying because I am not forcing anyone to do anything. I just like my space clean. It makes my day easier and it stops me from losing my mind when everything piles up.
AIBU to think it is perfectly normal to want my home tidy and that she is the one making it a big deal?

I think you need a few days away, what time will you get here tomorrow?

Mines a toddler now and I still can't get back to full on cleaning it. Definitely lowered standards when he was born 🤭

I'm like you. I could have unexpected guests and not feel embarrassed. She is rude.

I find that “Fuck off!” Is a full sentence.

I think your friend is rude.

I am slovenly and one of my best friends is super tidy. We acknowledge that neither of us could live like the other, but actually neither of us is “wrong”. She enjoys the freedom of being in my home where she says “anything goes!” and I can appreciate the order in hers. We don’t feel the need to criticise each other.

I had a friend like this and ended up so wary of her comments that I would strew things around & mess up the cushions before she arrived!