Hello all
I have a few different friends groups. One friend group, which consists of me and three other women who I used to work, have went quiet since having my baby.
We would see each other every few months and would have a girly weekend away every year. Last year, we had booked up again and then I found out I was pregnant. I didn't say anything as I was anxious (1st pregnancy). We then told close family and some friends after 12 week scan (we waited to tell friends in person so it depended when we met up with them) and then other people found after 16 week scan (or was it 20 week? I actually can't remember when 2nd scan is now... baby brain!!). I told this group of friends after 16/20 week scan. It meant I wasn't able to go away for the weekend as due date was week before (the weekend date is set as we go to a festival every year).
I had paid half of my money for the trip and never expected a penny back. It was never offered back anyway. The week before I told one friend was asking about booking seats for the bus, I agreed and let her continue. I felt bad knowing I wasn't going but wanted to wait for the following week to tell them in person the reason why. Also, I was paying anyway!
Anyway, when I told the three of them when I met, two of them had guessed anyway and we're visibly really happy for me. Giving me cuddles, asking usual questions.. do you know if boy/girl, how are you feeling, etc. The third friend said "you could have told me before I booked the bus ticket", I apologised and said i didn't know what to do. She laughed and said "im joking". After dinner we got dessert, half way through desserts this friend said she suddenly didn't feel well and left early. Which is so unlike her.
They were then all invited to my baby shower but this friend wouldn't give me an answer if she could attend or not, she would blank messages, only message back when I asked the other two friends if she was okay. On the morning of my baby shower she cancelled. She said she wasn't feeling well. That was 8 months ago and I haven't heard from her since. Well, I got a congrats when baby was born and she sent a picture of her at said festival but didn't reply back to any messages when i asked how it was etc.
For the festival she actually went with her husband and slowly invited the other two friends. No one got any money back.
Last week I messaged asking how they all were, the other two replied as usual and she said nothing.
I dont get it. Its not like we were a party group, always out every weekend and now I've changed the dynamics. They are all 20 years older than me with children of their own (albeit older kids). I feel sad as I used to enjot our catch ups and annual festival weekend getaway. I asked the other day if they were going next year as id like to go and got ignored.
Am I being paranoid or do you think they aren't interested in being my friend anymore since having a baby? I know that sounds silly... like why would they do that but I cant think of any other reason. What would you do?
Thank you