...to leave my EBF 3 month old...

[Auroraspyjamas]

...with DH to go for a drink down the road with friends tonight? A typical night for us = I feed DS to sleep 7-8 and then he sleeps in DH's arms while we watch tv. We go up to bed approx 11 and he is transferred to the side cot and sleeps until 3pm. Would say it is this wake time or later for him 90% of the time but obv would be sods law this time he'd wake earlier!

My plan would be to feed him to sleep 7/8 as normal and go for a couple glasses of wine at a pub 10 mins away. If he sleeps until 3 I can still breastfeed and I've pumped some milk if he wakes up earlier for me or DH to feed him (depending on if I am back yet). However, we haven't properly tried with a bottle before (I gave him a little bit yesterday and he took some but then I switched to boob) so if he wakes earlier than normal and won't bottle feed from DH I would pop home to try with bottle (or BF as a last resort as alcohol would still be in my milk).

What do you think? Is it too soon? Too many variables? Or am I being over-anxious? Last baby I didn't go out in the evenings until almost a year as I had PPA and I'm trying to be more relaxed this time but don't want to swing too far the other way so need some guidance.

Well I don't know what to say to you other than I think three months is too young to be training for separation

OP will be just down the road, not in another country. She can come back quickly if necessary.

From 8ish until 3pm normally but he sleeps in arms 8-11 and then gets transferred to cot

What separation? The baby will be sleeping in his father's arms same as he would he if OP was there.

Do you mean 3am?

Errr yes haha sorry

Good golly. I’ve never in my 60 plus years heard of a baby sleeping until the afternoon!

I had thought you’d meant 3am lol. But yeah, 3pm - go for it! Lucky you

Absolutely you should go!

I think this shows you definitely need to get out for a break and a change of scenery 😄

God! Just imagine!! 😂

No sorry I did mean 3am! Just have baby brain 😂

Go!

😂

Yes go! I was like you with my first and barely left him. The second I did it a bit more frequently and it made me feel so much better to have that bit of time doing something for me and catching up with friends.

I think do go, but definitely read the NHS guidelines. I’d drink 1 glass early, then stick to non alcoholic tbh; or at least pace it out 1 drink every 2hrs or so. Remember the alcohol peaks in your blood at 2 hours. Your breastmilk will have the same alcohol content as your blood.

Also, if the bottle doesn’t work your DH can try syringes or a cup, that’s what they do in hospital. Don’t be surprised if baby doesn’t take a bottle though, it’s a skill that needs to be learned.

But do go, it is doable xx

But baby could be with DH and start crying whilst OP is in the bathroom, and it could take her 10 mins to get back to them? Is mum going to the loo risking separation anxiety now?

Awww @Auroraspyjamas - we hear you! Hope you can make it work and you have a great “me” time 💐

Yes, do read the NHS guidelines as they basically say it's fine.

If you do intend to have a social drink, you could try avoiding breastfeeding for 2 to 3 hours for every drink you have to avoid exposing your baby to any alcohol in your milk.
"You could try" is the mildest vague attempt at advice they can make. It's far from any kind of suggestion it's even slightly necessary.

So it's actually ok to drink alcohol and feed. Pump and dump is a myth. There is no need to do that at all. Just feed as normal

I did it at ten days, eek! Didn’t want a bottle refuser.