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To invoke the ‘otherwise’ option for school absence?

413 replies

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 10:58

AIBU to send this letter in and request temporary de-registration?
WWYD if you are a Headteacher and received this?
Dear Headteacher,
I am writing to inform you that for the period xxx 2026 to xxx 2026 inclusive, my children, [Child’s Name(s)], will be receiving their education otherwise than at school, in accordance with Section 7 of the Education Act 1996, which places the legal duty for securing a suitable education on me as the parent.
Section 7 states that:
“The parent of every child of compulsory school age shall cause him to receive efficient full-time education suitable to his age, ability and aptitude, and to any special educational needs he may have, either by regular attendance at school or otherwise.”
During this period I will be exercising the “otherwise” option. As such, my children will not be attending school between these dates. You may therefore treat them as temporarily deregistered for this period, as their education is being lawfully provided by me.
This is not a permanent withdrawal. My intention is for them to return to school-based provision on xxx 2026.
For clarity:
Parents are the duty-holders under Education Act 1996 s.7 with the right to elect for education “otherwise”.
Elective Home Education does not require the school’s permission (DfE Elective Home Education Guidance, 2019).
Temporary periods of home education are legally valid where the parent is providing suitable education under s.7.
Compulsory school attendance requirements under s.444 apply only where the parent is relying on school attendance to discharge the s.7 duty, which is not the case during this period.
Please confirm receipt of this notification for your records.

OP posts:
Swiftie1878 · 20/11/2025 13:34

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:27

Both of course...

Yeah, that’s a big idiotic.

You can’t take your kids out and ‘reserve’ their places for their return. Once they’re out, they’re out, and their places are up for grabs.

CandidHedgehog · 20/11/2025 13:34

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 11:13

Is there a law that prevents temporary de-registration? People are saying no you can’t temporarily de-register your child but are not providing the legal basis to this. Does anyone actually know if the request in the letter is legal?

You have it the wrong way around. There is a law that covers de-registration / home schooling - you’ve quoted it.

For temporary de-registration to be legal and the school to be bound by the requirement to let a child back in after a ‘temporary’ departure, there would need to be legislation that says this.

There isn’t any.

Buscobel · 20/11/2025 13:35

Well, if you think you can do it OP, try it.

Lindy2 · 20/11/2025 13:36

Why won't you say how long you intend to "educate at home" for?

Your child is either registered for a school place or not. Therefore no dipping in and out according to your preferences.

If you deregistered at our school the place would be filled within a few days. There simply isn't the capacity to hold unfilled places. Another child will be there filling the place.

If it's a for a term time holiday you're being ridiculous and risking your child having no school place when you get back.

If it's genuinely to home educate then stick with that on a long term basis.

You use far too many words.

Stompythedinosaur · 20/11/2025 13:38

You can de-register your child, but there's no guarantee the school won't give their place to someone else before you re-register them. You can't temporarily de-register and also hold the school place.

Is this for a holiday? Honestly, just pay the fine.

AlleycatMarie · 20/11/2025 13:39

You can ChatGPT it and disagree with the system all you want; the rules still apply to you as they do to everyone else!!!

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:40

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 20/11/2025 13:33

This whole thing is absolutely insane.

Either, don’t take your kids out of school for term time holidays, or do - and pay the fine.

it’s THAT simple.

Actually it's only that simple because public voice and opinion on the matter is not being fairly heard! The number of petitions started on school absence in term time clearly evidences there is a high level of demand for a changes to the current system, change has to start somewhere, being a doormat doesn't enable progress...

OP posts:
TheDenimPoet · 20/11/2025 13:41

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 11:13

Is there a law that prevents temporary de-registration? People are saying no you can’t temporarily de-register your child but are not providing the legal basis to this. Does anyone actually know if the request in the letter is legal?

Of course you can de-register. But they don't have to keep the place open.

GoingbackwardsForwards · 20/11/2025 13:42

You must have a lot of time on your hands to be considering this nonsense. Get a hobby or a job and stop being so ridiculous

ApplebyArrows · 20/11/2025 13:43

One suspects the local authority might be particularly interested in arranging a quick inspection to check up on the quality of this temporary "education"?

spanieleyes · 20/11/2025 13:44

If you want the law changing, that’s absolutely fine, petition away. But don’t expect the current laws to be bent to suit you.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 20/11/2025 13:44

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:40

Actually it's only that simple because public voice and opinion on the matter is not being fairly heard! The number of petitions started on school absence in term time clearly evidences there is a high level of demand for a changes to the current system, change has to start somewhere, being a doormat doesn't enable progress...

What progress is to be made by people taking their kids out of school whenever they fancy?

HildegardP · 20/11/2025 13:44

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:40

Actually it's only that simple because public voice and opinion on the matter is not being fairly heard! The number of petitions started on school absence in term time clearly evidences there is a high level of demand for a changes to the current system, change has to start somewhere, being a doormat doesn't enable progress...

Actually it is that simple because that's the law. I realise you may feel similarly miffed that you're not allowed to drive off from the petrol station without paying for your fuel or organise your house moves by simply breaking into whichever dwelling strikes your fancy, but like all of us you are subject to the law.

Maybeitllneverhappen · 20/11/2025 13:45

I think (it's hard to remember amongst all the stuff you've (not) written) that the original question was how a head teacher would feel receiving this. In your case, I imagine I would be throwing a party with lots of alcohol to celebrate that you would no longer be in contact with the school. (You asked).

spanieleyes · 20/11/2025 13:46

ApplebyArrows · 20/11/2025 13:43

One suspects the local authority might be particularly interested in arranging a quick inspection to check up on the quality of this temporary "education"?

In my local authority, when a parent decides to home educate, the school has to complete a form , one of the questions basically asks if we consider the parent able to provide a suitable education. In this case, I think my response would be No, relies too much on ChatGp and not common sense!

mummymeister · 20/11/2025 13:46

at the end of day, despite all of your eloquence what you are saying is "I dont like the rules and dont want them to apply to me because Im special" and you arent.

there is no such thing as temporary deregistration because if there were every parent who ever took their child on an authorised holiday would do this option.

if you deregister you will lose your place at that school and rightly so. either you play by the rules or you skip out of the game.

petitions yes. lobbying your MP yes all of those good things. but the rules apply to you and they will be applied because not to do that would be just as unfair.

Comefromaway · 20/11/2025 13:47

You absolutely can temporarily de-register your child. That is your legal right.

The school, however, is under no obligation to hold your place. If the school is under-subscribed then you may be OK but you will have to re-apply for a place and the timescales for this may not exactly meet your original dates.

If the school is over-subscribed then the local authority may end up allocating them a place in a different school.

TidyCyan · 20/11/2025 13:48

Maybeitllneverhappen · 20/11/2025 13:45

I think (it's hard to remember amongst all the stuff you've (not) written) that the original question was how a head teacher would feel receiving this. In your case, I imagine I would be throwing a party with lots of alcohol to celebrate that you would no longer be in contact with the school. (You asked).

Yep. I did think that this is giving them a lovely excuse to never see, speak to or receive an excruciatingly dull email that thinks it's clever from OP ever again.

Asunciondeflata · 20/11/2025 13:48

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:40

Actually it's only that simple because public voice and opinion on the matter is not being fairly heard! The number of petitions started on school absence in term time clearly evidences there is a high level of demand for a changes to the current system, change has to start somewhere, being a doormat doesn't enable progress...

Headteachers aren't going by petitions, though
They have to follow the law as it stands.
Just deregister and home school if you want to, but just send a simple clear letter to that effect

CranfordScones · 20/11/2025 13:48

...It is a rational response to a system that has not kept pace with society.

It reads as abstract waffle to justify your belief that the rules are made for other people.

How about relating the concrete facts of your situation?

ConcernedOfClapham · 20/11/2025 13:50

LiveTellyPhrase · 20/11/2025 13:24

Wow, that is one long chat GPT blurb if ever I’ve read one

I think we’ve been hoodwinked; I’m pretty sure the OP is a bot 🤨

FairKoala · 20/11/2025 13:51

TranscendentTiger · 20/11/2025 11:06

No, it almost certainly will not. Once you off-roll your child the space will be offered to the next person on the waiting list (if there is one).

Not necessarily. The travelling community can be on roll with more than one school at any one time. Schools have to keep places open for them returning to the area.

Duckyfondant · 20/11/2025 13:51

For those of us that are less AI savvy.. Is this what happens when someone not very bright uses AI to try and organise their thoughts? All those point 1 and point 2s seen in the long text?

JoyintheMorning · 20/11/2025 13:51

The child would be removed from the Roll because they can only be in one place at a time. That is registered with you or registered with a school.

  1. You remove them from school
  2. You register them with you.
When you get bored with that you apply to send them to a school. You might get your first choice you might not.
TinyTear · 20/11/2025 13:54

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:23

Thanks again for the replies. I do understand the concerns. However to clarify this is not about avoiding a fine for a holiday. It is about recognising the attendance system we are all working within was made for a society that no longer matches how families live work or travel today.

  1. Outdated system versus modern realities
  2. The current model assumes parents work fixed hours in one place, that families only travel during the school designated windows, that travel outside those windows is rare and that education must happen in a school building Monday to Friday. That framework may have made sense decades ago but it does not reflect the United Kingdom in 2025.
  3. Modern family life global mobility seasonal patterns and real constraints
  4. For many families today travel and family time are shaped by real world factors rather than just cost.
Take Spain as a very clear example. Spain welcomed around 85 million international visitors in 2023 which was about a 19 per cent increase on the previous year and which went beyond the pre pandemic figure of 83.5 million in 2019. The income from those visitors reached about 108.7 billion euros. Spain received roughly 17.3 million visitors from the United Kingdom, 11.8 million from France and 10.8 million from Germany. The country is now dealing with overtourism in regions such as Catalonia the Balearic Islands and the Canary Islands where residents feel the impact of very high visitor numbers. Spanish authorities have started to bring in measures to spread visitors more evenly across the year and to reduce pressure from intense peaks. Working patterns have also changed. Many parents now work remotely or in hybrid roles or with international teams in different time zones. These jobs do not align neatly with the United Kingdom school calendar and coordinating family time inside the rigid structure becomes extremely difficult. This is not luxury. It is the reality for many modern working families. Seasonal and climate factors also affect some travel. For example reliable snow in the northern hemisphere now tends to fall later and less predictably than in previous decades. This means some families cannot fit certain activities into the narrow half term week without overlapping with term time. This is not about extravagance. It is about how travel timing and seasons have shifted.
  1. The legal right to provide education otherwise and the relevance of the 10 day proposal
  2. Section 7 of the Education Act 1996 states parents must ensure their child receives efficient full time education suitable to their age ability aptitude and any special educational needs either by regular attendance at school or by education provided otherwise.
This legal route means ta parent is authorised to provide education outside school when they choose to and still meet their duty. There is currently a call for families to be allowed up to 10 days of term time absence without penalty each year. This mirrors the idea a parent might elect for education otherwise for a short defined period without it being treated as a permanent move out of school. Recent reporting has shown strong public support for this type of flexible approach.
  1. School place the 10 day holding period and why this is seen as a loophole
  2. In practice parents are aware that a school cannot simply erase a child from its roll the moment they are not in the classroom. There is a period, commonly understood to be around 10 school days, in which the child’s place is effectively held while the absence is clarified and any decision about the roll is made.
From a parent perspective this creates a de facto safety window. If they exercise their right to provide education otherwise and the absence is contained within that same 10 day span, the school is still treating the child as having a place. The child does not instantly lose their place and there is no realistic risk of it being handed to another family inside that time frame. That is why many parents see the combination of Section 7 and this 10 day holding period as a VALID loophole. It allows them to provide education otherwise, for up to 10 days, in a way that is within the law, while the school still has to hold the place. This lines up exactly with the petition request for 10 days of flexible term time absence and shows that the system already contains the shape of a workable middle option. It is just not openly acknowledged or sensibly structured.
  1. The absence of any meaningful middle option
  2. Currently parents are left with two extremes. They can request authorised absence which is almost always refused unless the circumstances are exceptional. Or they can elect to provide education otherwise under Section 7 which is lawful but is often treated as a major step because of how the school roll and place holding are normally managed.
There is no formal structured option for short term flexi schooling or educational travel aligned with global work and modern family mobility even though the practice around 10 days on the roll shows that the system could support it.
  1. The core issue
  2. A modern education system in 2025 should reflect how families actually live travel and work. Instead the current attendance framework forces every family into a rigid model that no longer matches the reality. That mismatch is what leads some parents to consider short periods of education otherwise. Not because they want to undermine schools but because the existing system offers no viable alternative.
Until reforms bring the policy into line with real life, it is therefore very possible for families to rely on the lawful option that Section 7 provides and on the practical 10 day window in which the school still holds the place. It is not misuse. It is a rational response to a system that has not kept pace with society.

Holy TLDR Batman!

boohoo you can't go skiing. pay the bloody fine FFS