Cheating horrible man :( post partum

[omgno45]

Don’t want to go into details of the past it’s boring now.
however. I have a 10 month old baby. I left his dad 9 weeks ago as he became extreme abusive. And I mean extreme
since having baby he’s told me many times I’m a fat ugly loser and nobody will want me. I’ve not let him see baby because of abuse and told him he needs to change and get some help if he wants to be a dad in the future. I never retaliate or abuse him back.

since leaving him 9 weeks ago all I’ve had is abuse abuse abuse. On email. Can’t block email.
anyway…
these past 3 days he’s really hyped up the abuse. He’s now starting calling our baby a little cunt, ginger bastard (he’s blonde) he hopes baby is a cunt for me and ruins my life and he doesn’t care or the baby becomes a “spaz” and to not let baby know who his dad is and he wants to come off the birth certificate.
I never reply.
he’s also admitted he’s been with someone else.

honestly I can’t tell u how low I feel. I’m here feeling the far ugly loser he tells me I am with my baby doing all the nights. The everything !!! And he’s just having sex with someone already but can’t leave me alone. He has to remind me everyday how ugly he thinks I am. Fed up :(

Do not read his emails. In fact change your email address. That thing is not worthy of you or your child. Keep evidence of everything he does or says. Hes a vile disgusting little bully. Just laugh at him.

You can set up a folder that all emails from him will go into without you seeing them. Don't be tempted to look. Then you have them as proof he's abusive but they shouldn't disrupt your life.

I'm sorry you're going through this - but at least you know his true colours and to never give him a chance.

You can block email addresses abc you absolutely should.

Block him on everything and don’t listen to anything this vile piece of shit has to say. Anyone that can call a 10 month old baby a cunt isn’t someone who deserves to be listened to.

You are well rid.

It is totally understandable that he has some sort of hold on you or attention from you ... because he is the father of your son.

However every single comment he is making to you, is driven by his insecurities and his pain. It has nothing to do with you and who you are.

Of course he is sleeping with someone else - he is insecure and needs attention.

Of course he wants you to feel bad - he is insecure and needs attention.

You are well rid of him.

Can you filter his email straight into another folder?

Please don't let his words become your words. Does your baby think you're a fat loser? NO! Baby thinks you're the best thing ever and he is right. Enjoy this time.

Respond once to the email saying I AM NOW TREATING THIS AS PERSISTENT HARASSMENT DO NOT CONTACT ME AGAIN.

when he responds which he will file a non-molestation order immediately attaching all the screen shots and emails. This will ensure he stays away from you and the police will have the power to arrest him. It’s free you can do it online.

Print the emails off and go to the police. Life's too short to be dealing with his nonsense, especially when you have a newborn to enjoy.

Would you consider reporting him to the police? He’s abusive and he’s harassing you. There’s enough evidence in those emails alone for the police to take this very seriously.
Who the fuck this guy thinks he is, I don’t know. But he’s a disgusting piece of shit talking about his baby like that. Don’t take his abuse anymore. Enough is enough.
And please don’t take on board his cruel words anymore. You’re raising a baby alone, you’re doing everything that he is incapable of doing. You’re an amazing mother and woman. It’s time to take back your power from this pathetic excuse of a man…

I would be at the stage of reporting him to the police.

i believe advice is not to block so that you have actual evidence.

Just maybe send it all to a specific folder so you don’t have to read it and ask a friend or family member to look through it every once in a while.

he’s ramping up his vile behaviour because he’s clutching at straws as to how to effect you.

Him telling you you’re ugly and putting you down doesn’t make it true, he’s just doing it to be hurtful.

The man is a vile low life. Why would you listen to a word he says or place any value on his opinions?

Think about it.

He abuses you
He abuses his own child
You are calmly carrying on
Being a good mum
Not retaliating
Not reporting him to the police (why not?)

You have acted at all times with calm dignity and professionalism. You are a million miles above him in every way OP. He has only ramped up the email abuse because he's powerless to influence your life or your child's in any other way. A weak and worthless man.

All power to you from another single mum. 💐 Keep going and ignore him as the pointless creep that he is. xx

Tell him not to contact you then when he does go to the police for harassment

I'm sorry you're going through this. Keep everything as evidence. Protect your son and keep him away from that man.