Should I say anything?

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I have been with dh about 12 years and he has an old school friend he meets up with occasionally, usually he pops over for an evening about once every 6 months, he was also Dh best man at our wedding.
This friend wanted to introduce his new girlfriend to us and we met her and me and her hit it off straight away, he has since met someone else and is seeing them both with no intention of either going very far.
Mean while my new friend that he is seeing is really keen and thinks they are in a serious relationship and has no idea he is also with someone else.
We have become good friends and she regularly comes over now and I feel so bad knowing her relationship isn’t what she thinks.
He has told her he wants to try for a baby and she is excited about this.
Dh says I should keep out of it but I really like this girl and see a real friendship with her.

FFS tell her the truth and get a better husband because yours has the morals of an alley cat!

Most of the time I think stay out of other people’s shit, no one will thank you. But are you close with DHs friend? If so I’d say I might encourage him to be honest with her but he doesn’t seem like a moral or nice person from this account.

Yep, what @BMW6 said!

You can’t be her friend and not tell her. You and dh need to speak and agree a plan. How will he feel if you go ahead and tell her anyway? He’s had his friend for a long time so he may pull rank. Perhaps get dh to tell his friend he needs to tell her before you do. Or at least break up with her.

Yes, agree with first post.

Ask your friend to tell the girlfriend, let him know it’s making you uncomfortable and if asked, you won’t be keeping secrets.

what a twat of a friend your husband has...hope it doesnt rub off on him. Morals...zero

Oh my god tell her before she does get knocked up by this piece of shit!

I'd also seriously be thinking about my husband's moral compass protecting this twat. I'd not be impressed if my husband didn't at minimum read his pal the riot act for this sort of behaviour.

Your husband has horrible friends doesn't he? Hope he doesn't share their 'values system'.

If she's genuinely your friend then of course she needs to know - I would be telling the boyfriend that either he tells her or you do.

He doesn’t agree with what his friend is doing but it’s an old school friend he just leave him to his own devices as he knows what he’s like.
He has other friends who have better morals.

Of course you must tell her, why wouldn’t you.

What an absolute scum bag he is.

He was his best man - sounds like they are fairly solid. Plus you wouldn't have met her if this friend didn't see you and your husband on a regular basis - that's not leaving him to his own devices. Also your husband said not to do anything - poor values.

What are you going to do?

I was going to say stay out of it until you said yes telling her he wants kids. What a scum bag. Next time you see him, I’d be giving him an earful that he needs to stop messing her around.