What time does your 15 year old son go to bed?

[Southern1964]

Just that really, my DS is 2 months off being 15 and at the moment I ask him to take his phone out of his room around 10:15/30 then he retrieves it again after he’s had a shower and ready for school (it’s on full view). It’s not plain sailing every night, the standard ‘I’ll just keep it my room tonight’ or ‘Just another 20 mins’ etc so I don’t really settle until I know he’s put it on charge on the landing which get toward 11pm on rare occasions.
He is a good kid, just pushes back a bit more lately.
Thank you 🙏

At that age DD’s phone had parental
controls that shut it down after 9pm except for her music. She had to bring her devices down to charge in the kitchen at whatever time we said - probably about 9.30 at that age, and they stayed down.

You are the adult, the parent, and you are in charge. I don’t understand why this is an issue really.

You set the rules on the time the phone is charged and personally with the kind of responses he is giving I would want that in my room so he cannot sneak back out at 2am and use his phone. You pay the bill for it, this is a condition of the phone.

He is in charge of when he actually goes to bed to sleep. Mine worked backwards from the time they needed to be up, how long to shower, eat breakfast etc and leave the house. They worked out how many hours sleep they needed. Ds had an app that worked out when your alarm should be set to wake you when you are in a light sleep rather than a deep sleep.

As long as mine could get themselves out of bed and be in a good mood they could listen to their own body. They have stayed up ridiculously late over holidays and felt like shit the next day but did correct that bed time because of that.

Boundaries will always be pushed. At 15 he is either in year 10 or 11 so school is important and he needs to be wide awake for that. Ds1 has always needed more sleep than Ds2 so Ds1 blamed me for the phone being handed over "early" rather than tell his mates he needs a lot of sleep to function.

My 15 yr old son goes up to bed about 10.30. his phone goes off at that time too (I use the family link app on Google to set downtime). He can still listen to a podcast to get over to sleep though.