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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

It’s a parking one

33 replies

Polishmamaa · 18/11/2025 20:30

Might be long, and apologies in advance if it’s boring, lol.

I’ll add a diagram because it’s a bit confusing, but basically I live on a row of houses facing a green, with two small car parks one at the side and one opposite.

We’re on a street with two schools, so staff often use the car parks during the day. It’s never been an issue until they moved in. New neighbours moved in further down the street and seem to think they own the car parks. They put notes on all the teachers’ cars telling them not to park there again, and today they even deliberately blocked one of them in.

I then saw a confrontation where another neighbour pulled into the car park and the new ones ran out, telling her she shouldn’t be parking there, that she needs to move, and that she should use her driveway instead (they have two cars, so I assume her partner was going to be using it).

The cheeky mare doesn’t even park properly herself when she does manage to get into the car park, she parks diagonally and takes up two spaces.

AIBU to be irrationally irritated by this behaviour? Even though I haven’t had any dealings with them it’s making me want to go and remind them that this is a public road and most of us have lived here 10+ years and there has never been any issue with the car parks. Yes, it can be annoying when you don’t get a space right outside your house, but we all understand it’s first come, first served, and anyone can park there because it’s a public road.

I’ll also add that 95% of the time, the road directly outside her house has plenty of free spaces that aremuch closer. So I’ve no idea why she’s so obsessed with getting into the car park every day.

OP posts:
Polishmamaa · 18/11/2025 21:40

pizzaHeart · 18/11/2025 21:34

What does the sign on a car park say ?

This diagram is real work of art.

There are no signs or anything on them they are just two small car parks with enough room for around 5 cars on each

OP posts:
Polishmamaa · 18/11/2025 21:45

If anyone needs a diagram designing just give me a shout 🤣 I think I just feel defensive over the other neighbour, she wouldn’t say boo to a goose and the thought of her being bullied out of parking somewhere she has for years with no problems is pissing me off lol

OP posts:
Coconutter24 · 18/11/2025 21:49

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 18/11/2025 21:10

We have somebody like this on our street - no car parks, but has actually claimed that he owns the bit of road opposite his house. It's awful enough when people who've been there the longest do this, but he's one of the more recent arrivals too - some of the people he's been ordering not to park there have been there several decades longer than he has.

He and his wife have a double-width drive and two cars, so they don't even need to park there themselves. He just has too much time on his hands and has chosen harassing neighbours and making enemies as his hobby.

I disagree with PPs saying not to concern yourself with it, as it isn't affecting you. What happens if you have visitors who need to use it; or if she just randomly starts to dictate to you what you can and can't do?

Do the teachers definitely know that it's her? Is there a risk that they might think it could be you or one of the other reasonable neighbours leaving them nasty notes? It seems par for the course for busybodies like this to sign notes 'from the neighbours' or 'from the residents of Oak Street', as though they speak on behalf of everybody and they think that somehow gives them more credibility and authority in their ridiculousness.

I disagree with PPs saying not to concern yourself with it, as it isn't affecting you. What happens if you have visitors who need to use it; or if she just randomly starts to dictate to you what you can and can't do?

Op doesn’t need to say anything because it’s not affecting her, she’s just irritated at witnessing it. (Op just stop watching!)
If Op has visitors and they need to use the car park then they use it. If the neighbour starts to dictate anything to OP then that’s when she should say something but right now she’s not involved so why get involved?

pizzaHeart · 18/11/2025 23:31

Polishmamaa · 18/11/2025 21:40

There are no signs or anything on them they are just two small car parks with enough room for around 5 cars on each

If there is no any sort of signs in them like “permits E54-57” or “10 minutes only no return in 2 hours” it means anyone can park there for any length of time.
I wonder if EA told a new neighbour that it’s a designated car park. Can anyone ask her gently?

mushypeasontoast · 18/11/2025 23:42

I think a passive aggressive note is needed everytime she parks at an angle, commentating on her shit parking and telling her to straighten up so others can park. You could address it to selfish bitch.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 19/11/2025 00:03

Strawberries86 · 18/11/2025 20:53

I don’t quite understand but that is the dogs bollocks of MN parking diagrams. For that alone YANBU

Edited

Agree

LemaxObsessive · 19/11/2025 01:05

Yeah I’d be wondering if she’s perhaps bought a space on one of the car parks.

Btw we need a tutorial on how you drew those houses!

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 19/11/2025 08:53

Coconutter24 · 18/11/2025 21:49

I disagree with PPs saying not to concern yourself with it, as it isn't affecting you. What happens if you have visitors who need to use it; or if she just randomly starts to dictate to you what you can and can't do?

Op doesn’t need to say anything because it’s not affecting her, she’s just irritated at witnessing it. (Op just stop watching!)
If Op has visitors and they need to use the car park then they use it. If the neighbour starts to dictate anything to OP then that’s when she should say something but right now she’s not involved so why get involved?

True, she doesn't need to say anything - if she just works on an 'I'm alright, Jack' basis... but this kind of person usually takes not being challenged as a validation that they are right. The more ground she can gain, the bolder she could become.

Remember that it's effectively treated by many of them as a hobby - it isn't just a means to an end. If you had success in most hobbies, would you not keep pushing to see how far you could progress? If you played a sport and consistently ended up at the top of your town league, wouldn't you want to go for county level?

Plus we don't actually know if she's doing the common thing of invoking OP and the other neighbours as supposedly agreeing with what she's doing 'on behalf of them all'. Vindictive, bullying people like this need to have the wind taken out of their sails as early as possible.

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