Don’t know if I’ve been a bit unreasonable with this friend or not. One of my oldest friends (and used to be one of my closest but not for a while) and I have drifted apart in the last year. Neither of our faults, just life, but we barely speak anymore (and we live close by) we met briefly with our kids in the park for the first time in months the other day and as we were leaving she said “by the way is it ok if me and ….(daughter’s name) stay at yours one night next week”. The reason she gave was her daughter was going on a school trip the following day that she had to drive her to the location for in the morning and it’s 20 min closer to my house than her’s! Seemed very lazy and unnecessary to me. I said I’d get back to her but the more I thought about it the more annoyed I got. If she’d said something like “do you want to hang out on this night next week, I could make us dinner, and it’d be really helpful if we could stay” I’d be a bit more open to the idea, or if she’d asked back when we actually spoke to each other I’d have no problem with it. However, she’s always been a bit entitled, I’ve done her loads of favours in the past (not all of which I was comfortable with) but I’m not willing to have her & her daughter stay over when we’ve barely spoken in a nearly a year and aren’t really in each others’ lives anymore. I sent her an honest text saying I missed her and it’s a shame we’ve drifted apart (but that it was no one’s fault, just life) and I’d be great to start hanging out again but that I don’t feel comfortable with it starting out with me doing her a favour, it needs to start out equally. As I guessed would happen, she’s just totally ignored me. I didn’t mention to her that it’s also because I’m sick of her entitled attitude and her lack of support when my exH took me to court to a few months ago to try and take my kids away from me, so it does come from a place of deeper resentment but she’s not aware of that. In any case I’m willing to let this friendship go, I think I’d rather be lonely than have rubbish friends. I’m just wondering if I’ve been too harsh?