To think parents should keep their vomiting children off school

[Sweetlifeofyours]

Got a phone call off school to say my child has been vomited on by another child. I got a message from the parent apologising (my child and their child are friends) and saying their child was only sick once at 6am and because they felt fine afterwards they didn’t think it was anything serious.

Now is the countdown I guess to see if my DC gets it and (as usual) spreads it around the house. Fuming to be honest! People are selfish. Is it really that hard to keep your child off school for 1/2 days😡

How is your little one op? @Sweetlifeofyours

The making the post in the first place was self-righteous, I thought that was evident from the way I said you just wanted to whip up outrage and have a pile on. Sorry if that's wasn't clear.

I thought why I made the post in the first place was obvious considering I asked a question and it’s Aibu..sorry if that wasn’t clear and that you’ve twisted my words. That’s your problem, not mine.

I don’t actually see what the massive deal is. If I wanted to “whip up an outrage” I’d come on and ask about a more controversial topic. The only person on this thread who has created an issue is you.

I thought why I made the post in the first place was obvious

It was obvious, yeah. You weren't really asking a question you were looking for confirmation that you are, in fact, correct and amazing. "How AWFUL are some parents, I could never I'm just too selfless! Oh, am I just being unreasonable in doing the right thing, I just don't know. Best start a thread to have people validate me". Etc etc.

Then responses such as "well, if that's what you think that your problem, I was just innocently wondering", "of course not, I can't help it if you're a terrible person", fake laughter and faux breeziness blah blah blah. It's all been done before - that's what AIBU is these days.

I can’t believe somebody is actually getting this wound up over this🤣 People can post as they wish, your opinion and bad attitude isn’t going to change that.

Anyway, seems like you’re just looking for an argument now and I have much better things to be doing. Have a nice day👋🏻

Thanks for asking, he’s ok so far🤞🏼

Ugh, of course you're not unreasonable, the 48 hour rule sucks but exists for a reason. Both mine had it last week (luckily husband and I didn't get it), each had one bout of nighttime sickness and that was it... but they obviously needed to be kept off a) to stop it spreading and b) because even though they felt much better and weren't sick again, they were still really tired and needed the rest to recover properly.

Having worked in an infant school for over ten years, I’ve lost count of the times that children have come into school and tell us that they’ve been sick in the night, or even that morning. It’s bloody selfish ‘parenting’!!! And the children who looked absolutely dreadful and threw up at school, got sent home and then turned up the next morning is bloody selfish too! The office would ring their parents and make it quite clear that we don’t tolerate that.
For the posters berating you @Sweetlifeofyours, I assume they’re the selfish arses that would be happy to send their children in and compromise the other children and staff in the school.

Well we are never going to agree then because my original point still stands. I am not talking about getting fines, I didn't mention fines. I am talking abut the general piling on of guilt to many parents who are just doing their best.

I imagine your posts are referring to (admitedly very annoying) minority of parents who do take the piss and that is what is driving your tone but in the same way that you can cite individual parents who bring in ill children against school advice, I can find examples of schools that insist children come to school despite being ill, sometimes by suggesting parent are being hoodwinked by the child or sometimes just hoping the illness will resolve. Schools are definitely not always right there and there are many that are driven by their need to meet Ofsted targets and guidelines as much as by anything that is in the child's interests.

What it comes down to is a lack of trust between schools and parents and allowing the minority of parents who behave bady to colour the way schools treat the majority, who are usually just doing their best

I have already given reasons about why I regularly sent my son to school when he had vomitted either in the morning or the night before, as an example as to why it is not as black and white as you are saying. I had to deal with two different of teachers with your attitide on the two occasions my judgment was not proved correct so I know how it feels to be 'told off' in the way you would a child. I said nothing at the time as I am an adult and just took it on the chin, but it really did nothing to help my situation and certainly didn't change anything about what I was doing.

In any case there is nothing further to say I suppose. I am not even sure why I bothered to post this,other than your dismissive tone (which I am sure comes from exasperation with this issue) has obviously hit a nerve with me, even 10 years afterwards. I shall have to go and think about why that is, so that at least is a good thing to come out of this short,slightly bad tempered interaction with a stranger - I think!

Ah, yes the "you're getting wound up, calm down" tact. Also the "I'm off, don't want to reply anymore, not flouncing, honest". Forgot to list those on the indignant reply bingo so thanks.

I haven’t told you to calm down. I said I can’t believe somebody is actually getting this wound up over a thread. There’s no deeper meaning behind that, I just genuinely find it strange that it’s got you so rilled up.

I’m also not flouncing. I’d just rather not get into an argument with somebody who can’t get their point across without name calling and getting personal.

I don’t know what else there is to say. Parents who send their vomiting children into school are selfish and I think it’s wrong and nothing will change my mind. Certainly not you. That doesn’t make me superior or whatever else you’ve called me.

I actually think you might be trolling now though as surely no fully grown adult is this childish

Not trolling, just not letting you throw out some weak justifications for your very transparent motives and hope no one calls you out. You can call me all the names you can think of to try and distract from that if you like, I suspect you use that tactic quite often, but it doesn't bother me at all.

You've said yourself that "Parents who send their vomiting children into school are selfish and I think it’s wrong and nothing will change my mind" so by your own admission you had no questions in your mind so why create a post to ask AIBU? You weren't asking a question - you just wanted lots of people to tell you how right you were and inflame a discussion about how much better your way of thinking is than others. A self congratulatory pat on the back.

And job done, you seem to have achieved the validation you were looking for so that's a success for you!

Can I ask why this thread has affected you so much? This really isn’t a normal reaction to such an innocent thread. The only explanation I can think of is that I have touched a nerve because you must be a somebody who sends their child to school when they have been vomiting. If not is it because you’re bored and enjoy arguing with strangers online?

@Sweetlifeofyoursi agree with you that @Poleon is clearly a parent who sends a vomiting child in to school and it has certainly touched a nerve. Utter selfishness on their behalf. Thankfully we’re not all like @Poleon

They’re meant to keep them off for 48 hours after the last bout of sickness/diarrhoea. It infuriates me when a parent tries to send their child in knowing they have sickness and diarrhoea.

Yep it’s very clear isn’t it although they won’t admit it. They’ll come up with another strange response as to why they are getting so wound up

Nah. You've tried to deflect the focus from any criticism by pulling the "why are you so affected" line already. It didn't work then and it's not worked now.

You've also tried to attack my personality to hide yours. Smoke and mirrors, anything so you don't have to do any self reflection.

Like with most bugs, they were probably contagious before the symptoms appeared, so it won't make much difference.

It makes a huge difference! Norovirus isn’t like chickenpox where you’re infectious before symptoms start - you’re very unlikely to catch norovirus from somebody before they vomit or have diarrhoea. But if they vomit in a classroom or even in a communal toilet, the risk of catching it is enormous because of the tiny particles of vomit that spread in the air. They’re then infectious after vomiting or diarrhoea. The 48 hour rule is there to prevent repeat episode of vom or diarrhoea within a classroom or workplace and also so that they will be less infectious in general when they return.

I don’t need to, I don’t work in the English education system. No such thing as attendance awards in my school or indeed in the country I work in