To be put off?

[Miny98]

By the guy I am talking to texting things like ‘you better be ready😉’ and ‘I don’t think I’ll be able to keep my hands off you’ and ‘do you reckon you’ll be able to handle me?’ And ‘we’re going to be up all night’ we haven’t been sexting or anything. Maybe a few suggestive texts. I’m supposed to be seeing him at the weeks and possibly go to his. Would this be off putting to you though?

Sounds like he has very specific expectations of the weekend ahead. Do you even want to go that far with him? I would be put off if he was making it out to be a fait accompli that we would sleep together - and in such a yuck way. It sounds like what my first ever serious boyfriend would text me... and we were 18/19 at the time...

Yes and we are actually 28/29. I haven’t dated anyone in a while!

In which case I wouldn't be packing my overnight bag! I really don't blame you though, I would really not enjoy getting messages like that, particularly from someone who I hadn't even done the horizontal Tango with!!

Yuk. My fanjo would have sealed herself shut after that. I'm amazed you have to ask. 🤢

He’s clearly telling you he expects sex, which is fine if that’s what you’re looking for. He does come across as a horny 16 year old, which I couldn’t be arsed with in all honesty. If you’re not wanting sex just yet, which is also fine, I’d let him know he’s moving too fast. His response will tell you all you need to know.

If you do decide to meet him, I’d not be going back to his, or to yours, unless you’re planning to have sex with him. Follow usual safety precautions - meet in a public place, stay in public places and let someone know where you’re going, who with and when you expect to leave. Have a “get out of there” plan just in case.

You are being the most reasonable person that ever existed to be put off. However you are unreasonable to still be messaging this wanker. In answer to your question, yes, yes i would be put off and he would be blocked and deleted after the first message. 🤮

Puke!

🤮 this would seriously put me off as he seems like a one track minded creep. Sex is all well and good but there’s nothing worse than this incessant sex chat, what the hell is the matter with men?

He’s clearly under the impression you are just after sex, so tell him otherwise. There would be no coming back from it for me. He’s too presumptuous and is objectifying you, and if you’ve given him no reason to believe you want nothing but sex, then that says a lot about how he views women in general.

You say ‘talking to’, so have you even met yet?

Eww.

Is there any discussion of where he’s taking you on your date or is it all ‘you better be ready’ crap?

Yuck! By the sounds of it he’s never even touched a woman, to be texting like that. Nope, desperate for sex is not an attractive quality.

Not even sure why you need to ask. Just ick.

Why grown men behave this way is beyond me.

block him.

So you haven’t actually met? And he’s already talking like this? Please find your self esteem and do not, whatever you do, go to his on a first date - you could literally be anyone, he has no idea how you get on in real life, whether you even fancy each other, whether you can sustain a normal conversation together, but he thinks texting you that he wants to shag you is some big compliment? You are just a body to fill a woman shaped hole in his life, please don’t fall for this.

Don’t waste your time.

Eww. He sounds like a nasty, juvenile sex pest.

To be honest, I prefer men like him because they’re at least honest about their intentions and put it out there from the get go, it means women can avoid wasting their time or having their feelings hurt.

It’s the liars I have a real problem with who appear decent, say they want a relationship and then bugger off as soon as they’ve got what they wanted.

I’ve got the ick already.

I literally have 2 days ago cancelled and finished calling and texting a guy for this very same reason..Had only been talking 2 weeks and I had already said twice that all he seemed to make was innuendos etc and 2 days ago I called said I won't be texting or talking anymore to you literally have nothing to say other than what your going to imagine or do to me....and I blocked him and ye that was a age 40 guy to

He's standing in a field of red flags, waving a red flag in each hand, with another red flag up his backside. And a red flag hat on. Don't go near him 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

This reminds me of a guy I went on one or two dates with in my late teens/early twenties (can’t remember!) who just talked about “when we have sex”. I never did.

Yes but I would be more worried you need us to tell you this

Yes very offputting.

The fact you say "guy I'm talking to" and not "guy I'm seeing" says to me you haven't even met in the flesh yet. Thats very presumptuous of him that you want to be pawed or have sex with him. You should never consider going back to theirs (or take them to yours) on a first date either. Get to know them a bit and get an idea of their character before being alone or doing the deed. I'd definitely be blocking this one.

Urgh. I’d have told him he was a presumptuous dick and then blocked him. He sounds awful.

If you are looking for a shag... its fine i suppose 🤷🏻‍♀️

But this isnt the man you'll marry.

I would just cancel.