Business posted CCTV and my friend won’t own up

[Westongab]

I had a night out with friends on Saturday night, when waiting for a taxi one of my friends I was with went into the corner of the car park behind a hairdressers and ‘relieved’ herself.

Fast forward to this morning, posts have been put up by the owner of the hairdressers on Facebook and Instagram. She has said that people using the car park is now a weekly occurrence and she is sick of it. She then said the latest incident was caught on CCTV and she has footage. There is then a grab of myself, my friend who went into the car park, and another friend stood outside the front of the building where we were waiting for the taxi. The owner asks for the person who it was to contact her to apologise. She also says she will be blocking access to the car park from when the salon closed on Saturday to Monday morning.

Loads of comments slagging us off. My friend is refusing to own up and says it will be forgotten within a day or two. Luckily it’s mainly my back visible in the grab but people who know me and who I am friends with will obviously know it’s me so very embarrassing.

AIBU to expect my friend to own up and get the image taken down?

I agree with this 👆 it will all be forgotten about and really unnecessary to out herself. I wouldn't own up to weeing in a carpark corner either! Stop pressuring her! She's your mate! The salon owner isn't!

It will all blow over. Randoms on Facebook will find something else to angrily comment on.

In the highly unlikely event that anyone recognises you just say honestly that it wasn’t you.

I’d post a comment saying it wasn’t me.

Lots of CCTV is motion activated.
I don’t blame the hairdresser at all, who wants the area surrounding her business smelling of pee?

I walk through an alleyway near a tube station. On a morning you have to hold your breath as you walk through the smell is vile.

One wee may not be noticeable but if a few people are doing it it most certainly is.

I would just forget about it. It's not the end of the world.

The business is in the wrong for posting the footage.
It's a clear breach of the law. They aren't allowed to use CCTV footage like that.

Yes this
And hopefully someone will point out to the hairdresser that she is breaking the law by sharing the CCTV footage

How? Genuinely how? Forcibly kept her pants on?

Some people have bladder issues, and even if the friend didn’t, alcohol makes people more. If she wasn’t near a toilet and was desperate then, sure it’s not ideal, but when you’ve got to go, you’ve got to go sometimes. It’s not like she publicly flashed herself to all and sundry in public, she found a quiet corner behind a shop in the dark.

I’ve done similar when I was younger absolutely bursting for a pee with no prospect of a toilet in walking distance that I would make it to in time, so I’ve peed in bushes. So shoot me, it happens. I’d rather pee in a darkened corner of a car park where it would be washed away by rain than risk a fine for soiling in a taxi.

Quite, you would have to be really, really fit and strong to physically stop someone doing something they wanted to do.

I think your friend is right OP, it will all blow over. These ridiculous Facebook posts where loads of people pile on do just blow over.

She’s peed in the car park of someone’s business!
Would you be so understanding if people peed on your drive?

It sounds like people do it regularly so I can imagine it’s starting to smell. That could be harmful to her business.

It probably will blow over but I can fully understand why the business owner is upset and therefore posted in frustration.

Hi OP, obviously not great behaviour from your mate. However, salon owner has broken data protection laws by posting this image on SM without your consent. If you want the image taken down, I think that pointing this out is your best option.

www.gmsefireandsecurity.co.uk/blog/can-you-share-cctv-on-socials#:~:text=Understanding%20Data%20Protection%20Laws&text=Under%20GDPR%2C%20images%20that%20can,subject%20to%20data%20protection%20regulations.

I understand it’s annoying. I was answering someone who called her disgusting for peeing outdoors without considering the reasons this might have happened.

The owner went OTT plastering it all over Facebook to humiliate someone though, she could have just shut off her car park and had done with it, while warning people that CCTV is in operation

It is disgusting though! Whatever the reason she’s peed on someone’s property.
If it’s a regular occurrence for the business owner I can see why they might be frustrated and posted in anger.

Piss absolutely stinks and doesn't just wash away leaving no smell unfortunately. Anyone who has used the tube or walked around the back streets of a city can tell you that. It lingers, especially when multiple people piss in the same place.
I don't blame the shop owner at all. It's gross behaviour and now people know she has the area covered and won't be as quick to do it again.

I’m astonished that nobody has pointed out here that public urination is against the law. The business owner may be on dodgy ground publishing that screenshot, but I’ve seen actual video of people stealing things on Facebook groups and nobody ever complains about that.

If I were the business owner I wouldn’t have bothered, I’d have gone straight to the police, especially since it seems to be happening frequently.

It is disgusting but what else could she have done if she was bursting and was about to piss herself on the street?

No, I'm not the secret wee-er. Just a mum with a weak bladder!