To think this is odd?

[Muriall]

So I split with my ex around 18 months ago, we have 2 children which I have to pretty much beg him to see. He has them every other weekend and will happily go all that time without giving them a call. What I find bizarre is that he volunteered to go on a trip with my daughter’s school today? I’d love to think he did it for the right reasons but I am not convinced

What do you think his reasoning would be?

Hot mum there?

Or are you trying to insinuate nefarious reasons?

Ask him why.

Given he only has them from 4 days total a month and doesn't keep in touch for the other 26 odd days then yes it seems unlikely he volunteered to attend to accompany them on the trip for their benefit.

I'm guessing he wants to perform 'doting dad' for the school/world?!

Can you say what you think is odd about it? My ex barely saw our children (way less than every other weekend) he mentioned a couple of times he would go on their school trips I never found it odd. He is the father whats odd about it?

Performance parenting, hot mum, or pervert?? Which are you thinking op?

Free trip.

Is your DC happy?

If so, that's all that matters.

No point in wasting mental energy.

It’s just something I would never have expected him to do. He is happy not seeing the kids I find it weird he is like volunteer for something like that. I love kids don’t get me wrong but the idea of that to me is a nightmare.

I would like to think he is doing it for the reasons and that would be lovely. Could there be a l gal reason why he is doing it?

Yes, absolutely of course. It was just my friend that mentioned if there was a motive behind it which made me question it.

Just trying to prove himself as a dad to the school.

It was him and the 2 teachers. I mean it might be that he just wanted to be there with her but it is so out of character for him honestly.

But what would he gain from it? I wouldn’t volunteer and I would hope the teachers think I am a good parent?

No hot mum. He has a girlfriend and is happy so I can’t see it being that

I would like to think he is doing it for the reasons and that would be lovely. Could there be a l gal reason why he is doing it?

What do you mean?

Maybe he’s had an epiphany then and wants to be more involved🤷‍♀️

Where was the trip?Sudden interest from Dad's when DDs primary school went to Wimbledon. Also surge in interest from all parents when they went to Legoland.
Or maybe your child asked him and he wanted to make them happy?
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Of course he's not doing it for the right reasons.

He's doing it because it's a cool place he wants to go to for free (tbf this is the only reason I volunteer 😜 but I am an otherwise engaged parent) and/or he's doing it to look good.

Either way, let him crack on .

Sorry you have a shite ex, glad you're away from him xx

I'm first in line for all the castles and historical buildings

Legoland I'm like "nope!" They're welcome to it 😁

Could your daughter have mentioned it to him and asked him to come?. Whatever the case, your daughter is happy and that's really what matters here.

The scales are falling from the girlfriend’s eyes and she has called him out on some failings.

He has then hastily volunteered at a school event with a “Look! See! I am an attentive parent and partner and questioning that is crazy. Am I not all you ever dreamed of” response.

This would be my bet

Yeah, I reckon you're right

Winner!

Ex did this! Never once wrote in their reading records (7 years of school) and once I left him he wrote in it every. single. day that he had them! In a way where I couldn’t write in the box as well (on a swap over day) so he went 7 years without listening to them read and then all of a sudden he was reading with them every day, including before work / school! Pull the other one mate it’s got bells on it!

OP we also got lots of befriending other parents at school and lots of signing up to clubs (again, never interested for 7 years) all designed to make him look superior.

Didn’t work in the long run, both kids are no contact.