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What the actual ffyc is he doing now?!

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Arlanymor · 17/11/2025 16:31

For anyone who remembers the toilet goblin email exchange earlier in the year - my ex-husband randomly emailed me at work to ask me information about our wedding date and decree absolute... someone I have not spoken to since the divorce in 2017... randomly out of the blue thinking I should help him with an admin task that had he not cheated wouldn't have existed in the first place!

He's just sent me a bloody Messenger message - he is NOT my friend on Facebook - saying: Wales had a good game against Japan. I was watching it in a Welsh pub during a motorbike trop. Hope you're well.

GO AWAY!

Firstly - no it was not a good game, Wales were poor, Japan was better, we were saved by Jarrod Evans in the last minute. IDIOT.

But also... why would you get in touch to tell me this? Why are you my side of the bridge? Go away, you malignant oozing waste of DNA.

I am ignoring of course, but just why, why, why? I gave him really short shrift when he got in touch via email and he went away. I mean he was always an obnoxious fopdoodle, but even still...

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NatalieNatalieNatalie · 17/11/2025 16:33

Someone else has cottoned on and dumped him, presumably.

ImogenBrocklehurst · 17/11/2025 16:35

Please link the toilet goblin thread! It sounds interesting 🙂

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/11/2025 16:39

My lovely colleague talks a lot about the act of taking someone’s attention away from their stuff into your stuff. Whether that’s people being weird at work, or people like your ex. Screaming LOOK AT ME and taking you out of your life and your stuff.

👍 is the only response I would recommend. To any contact.

Arlanymor · 17/11/2025 17:00

NatalieNatalieNatalie · 17/11/2025 16:33

Someone else has cottoned on and dumped him, presumably.

Last I heard he was married with a child! But I have no interest in looking at his profile to see if that's true. Also he must have truly lost his marbles if he thinks I would ever be interested in him...

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Arlanymor · 17/11/2025 17:00

ImogenBrocklehurst · 17/11/2025 16:35

Please link the toilet goblin thread! It sounds interesting 🙂

Voila!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5311701-email-from-my-ex-husband?page=1

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Arlanymor · 17/11/2025 17:02

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/11/2025 16:39

My lovely colleague talks a lot about the act of taking someone’s attention away from their stuff into your stuff. Whether that’s people being weird at work, or people like your ex. Screaming LOOK AT ME and taking you out of your life and your stuff.

👍 is the only response I would recommend. To any contact.

I would prefer a different hand gesture to be fair...

Yes maybe that is what it is LOOK AT ME!

No thanks chum...

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INeedAnotherName · 17/11/2025 18:17

I remember you.

I suspect he is no longer happy in his relationship and is doing stuff to vent his frustration and anger away from it as he is not ready to break up. He’s wanting to needle and niggle you to create a fight and he's basically trying to substitute you for his partner as he can't fight her (yet).

Time to block the toilet goblin.

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