How to move after argument

[valeeei]

after Arguments do you and your husband have sex? I’ve asked my husband to focus on other things afterwards. It wasn’t a regular argument and I’m constantly thinking of it. I’ve asked to refrain from sex even suggested therapy and he rejected so I go on my own he’s stated he can’t go without sex am I wrong?

If it's an argument where you reached a compromise and agreed on going forward then make up sex is great. It shows that the argument is in the past and you still want each other, and why you want each other.

If, however, you have not resolved the issues to both of your satisfaction then sex is just an avoidance strategy. It makes you feel good and you think maybe the argument was not important because I feel good now. But the issues return because they weren't resolved.
If your partner is wanting sex to avoid discussing the issues then that will only delay the issues having to be resolved.
Your post reads like this has been happening before and you don't want to avoid the issues this time by having sex.
Personally, I think make up sex is just avoiding the fundamental issues, unless it is all sorted out before and most if the passion is unresolved anger.

He didn't accept it? It's not his choice.

No, OP, you are not wrong in being reluctant to provide sexual favors after a bust up. All that hot and cold drama strays too closely into borderline personality territory for my liking.

“No humping when you’ve got the hump” is a sensible maxim to follow. Good luck trying to steer the relationship into calmer waters.